Choosing to be Single and on the Road

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WriterMs said:
 I do hope everyone takes note, however, that I am much more charming and intelligent when you meet me in person.   :p    :rolleyes:

Really? How much more? I am looking for a good woman with a well set up van/rv. Send picture or RV. :p LOL
 
like most of us have a choice

"hey,your cute,wanna move in to my van and crap in a bucket?"
 
ramblingvanman said:
Really? How much more? I am looking for a good woman with a well set up van/rv. Send picture or RV. :p LOL

LOL, vanman,
but, hey, I never said I was "good." (borrowed from Mae West --- and, yes, I'm joking here too) Dang, I'm blanking on the right name, but one of our regular posters has a tagline about "Be good and you'll be lonesome" -- Mark Twain.
 
Gary68 said:
like most of us have a choice

"hey,your cute,wanna move in to my van and crap in a bucket?"

LOL. I think this is turning into the most humorous thread on the whole forum.

But, Gary, you made the point I was trying to make in my earlier, more serious, post. Meeting other van dwellers means never having to invite someone to crap in YOUR bucket. She's going to have her own already.
 
WriterMs said:
LOL.  I think this is turning into the most humorous thread on the whole forum.

But, Gary, you made the point I was trying to make in my earlier, more serious, post.  Meeting other van dwellers means never having to invite someone to crap in YOUR bucket. She's going to have her own already.

the only problem is all those type of ladies are in this thread talking about how much they love being single


is that a sigh of true van dweller love? when you share the bucket
 
not that I am actively searching.  I've given up. “

I've given up as well.

I go to the gym 10 x / week.
M-F 2 x / day for 30-45 mins each session.

I work 40 hrs / week desk job.
I feel like my soul is crushing in on itself.

Another 5-10 hrs / week ironing, shopping for food &
work stuff.

I refuse to pay for the 2 nd date.
& I usually ask to split the bill on the First one.

I haven't dated much in the last 3 yrs.
Is it too much to ask to be equals ?

Equal rights & equal finances.

Chivalry died in 1975

In 1945, one income could support a family &
a house
 
I don't live on the road, but I am single. I have yet to have a relationship last a full year, but there are also no bitter enemies in my dating history. I think a large factor in the lack of longevity in my relationships is simply wanting different things in life than the women I've dated. I'm happy with my life and have no ambition beyond what I've already achieved. I chose a career path that I absolutely love, but doesn't earn me all that much money and has me keeping odd hours a lot of the time. The odd hours especially, can put a huge strain on a relationship. I'm not available when she is. She's not available when I am. When I have money, I have no time. When I have time, I have no money. Still, I can bump into any of my ex-girlfriends and be greeted with a hug and a hello. Most of them have gotten together with people who are a much better match for them than I ever could have been.

There are certainly times when I would like regular female companionship, but then I realize that I value the time I spend with just me so much that it would be hard to share living space with someone else. Now, If I found a woman who understood my need to spend time with just me, I could maybe see myself building a working relationship.

In the mean time, as with so many others here, I'm really not looking all that hard. If I meet someone and something happens, great! If not, I like myself well enough that I can be happy alone.
 
Gary68 said:
like most of us have a choice

"hey,your cute,wanna move in to my van and crap in a bucket?"

Okay, this about had me rolling on the floor, I was laughing so hard.
 
Skuh kuh kuh kuh kuh kuh
Definitely a pick up line for the record books. :rolleyes:
 
I LOVE this thread!

Now, myself, I don't have to be on the road to be single. My last partner was back in '92. When I moved back to Texas that year I decided to take a Hiatus and try figuring out why I was getting involved with the wrong fellows. 10, 15, then 20 years passed and I found I was quite content on my own with a few good friends (and most of them are happily married!).

Don't hate men, but I'm just not good, traditional 'wife' material. I have had limited opportunities to meet the few men who would be compatible with my solitary ways, so I've not met 'em. Might meet 'em once I'm on the Road, but I'll be sure not to sell my Rig!
 
I've been single for the past year I've been living a mobile lifestyle. It is a choice on my part, as most of my travel budget goes to my Ex, leaving very little for dining out or bar hopping. This'll likely change in a month or so when I hit the road again.

Having a relationship on the road is definitely a challenge. I don't keep in touch with people I meet along the way, so exchanging contact info is useless. "How long have you been living around here?" "I'd say for the past 45 minutes or so." "Where do you live then?" "Wherever I park". Ladies who have never heard of Jack Kerouac think I'm an interesting weird-o, but I'm not going to dissimulate. Guys nearly always express some kind of jealousy, especially married guys.

When I'm sitting in a secluded campsite whiling away the long evening hours, I sometimes get a little tired of being alone. Independence and solitude vs dependence and companionship, I will make the choice when the right time comes.
 
-- Does it ever bother you thinking that you are "missing out" ? --

Not at all. I never wanted the "normal" life. Never wanted marriage (although I tried it for five years) or children or spending my golden years with the grandkids. That's completely unappealing to me.

Being single and on the road feels absolutely natural to me. A perfect fit.
 
Gary68 said:
like most of us have a choice

"hey,your cute,wanna move in to my van and crap in a bucket?"

Thank you for this.  

May I steal it and embed it in my profile picture on POF and OkCupid ?   :angel:

Hoping it will cut down on the "Wants to meet you" clicks without reading my profile.

:D
Larry
 
I choose to be single and I'm not even on the road yet. Not technically anyway.
 Just moved into my truck 4 days ago. I Didn't  know  where I was going to sleep Monday night, then pulled in to a campground of sort, walked up to this guy that was outside his TT and asked if I could share his space.  ( bold...I know ) He graciously said "sure". We have been sitting  outside in the evenings doing the get-to -know-you chitchat. He has certainly been the gentleman. Coming out of his TT and checking on me when I'm in my truck. I've been called some really horrid things. Hurtful things. That's one reason I prefer to be single. I'm no beauty queen, but the way people can use words to hurt others is beyond me. Anyway, it's refreshing having a guy 10 years your junior saying nice things about you. Haven't had that in a long time.
 
Hupomone, this is such a sweet uplifting post. I see you are just starting out. It can be hard at various times to live this life. You are at the right place here on the internet. There are a lot of really caring people here.
 
If she smiles at me and scratches my ears I will follow her home.

If she rubs my belly and feeds me bacon I will stay and be the best friend she has ever had.

But if she tries to come at me with a rolled up newspaper the party ends immediately.

Seriously, I have been alone a long time and content enough, but it would be great to have a woman. I leave it to fate.

In the meantime, I am happy to keep zooming down endless highways with my head stuck out the window, ears flapping in the wind, wagging my tail non-stop!
 
dragonflyinthesky said:
Hupomone,  this is such a sweet uplifting post.  I see you are just starting out. It can be hard at various times to live this life. You are at the right place here on the internet. There are a lot of really caring people here.

Thankyou dragonflyinthesky.
I am just starting out and still working in the town I'm living in. Being single in this Podunk town is harder than I could ever imagine. If your not up for dating and choose to be single, then something must be wrong with you. When you refuse offers, then the name calling begins, with men and women. I'm a pretty private person, that's one reason I don't post very much, besides being scared silly to "put myself out there" to folks judgement . I've had ENOUGH! of that. I will say that it's really nice when someone comes along and takes and interest in who you are and nothing else. I think meeting my new friend Monday was divine intervention. He's been good for my confidence. thankyou for yours as well!
 
MrNoodly said:
. I never wanted the "normal" life. Never wanted marriage (although I tried it for five years) or children or spending my golden years with the grandkids. That's completely unappealing to me.

...neither do the chores and responsibilities of owning & maintaining a house.
 
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