Headache
Well-known member
There were many things I thought I could handle but I've come to the conclusion that living in a van is not one of them. In fact, I've learned I very much dislike it almost to the point of hating it. I got so fed up I took a break from the discussion boards.
I thought I'd done my homework. I read these and other forums for years, chatted with people online and in real life, watched hours and hours of videos, read books, watched documentaries, etc. I'd previously restored a couple of cars, had mechanical experience, knew how to use power tools, and so forth.
I was also aware of my limitations; brain damage, carpal tunnel, mental illness, arthritis and an overall grouchy personality. Still I thought I could swing it. I was wrong.
What I NEVER should have done was allow myself to be convinced I was overthinking it, I wasn't. I learned that I should have trusted my gut and not be swayed by the color glossy brochure descriptions of an amazing time and how easy and wonderful van life would be.
One thing I DID get out of this experience is I've learned a lot about myself and that it's okay, I don't have to be a van dweller. I've learned a lot from others failures as well. It's the old saying; you learn more from your failures than your successes.
The negatives:
I was very disappointed at how many people I met blamed Bob for their failures rather than taking responsibility for their choices. This mostly had to do with products that Bob reviewed and/or recommended. I can't be around this kind of person very long because I'll end up saying something they won't like. Personal accountability is a very important character trait, especially living this way.
I had a really hard time around people who demanded respect but required I earn mine. I also had a very hard time around entitled people or those who took advantage of the generosity of others and treated them badly when they didn't immediately jump on demand. I ran into a lot of these kinds of people.
It sucked that my poor sense of direction is worse than I thought it was.
I learned that initially this can be a very expensive lifestyle and until I figured things out would continue to be. This is one of those instances where I allowed myself to be mislead by videos telling me how wonderful it was. Budgeting was a nightmare because the original budget I created didn't match the reality I ended up living. Most of the time I was too broke to go anywhere or spent too much money in order to deal with things like mechanical repairs.
I had no clue how isolated I would feel. This exacerbated my depression. I couldn't sleep at night because of the insecurity I felt. Not feeling a part of "the tribe" magnified that. It got worse when despite my detailed descriptions I was unable to get the help or information I needed which made me feel frightened, alone and unimportant. I tried to hook up with others but most of the time it didn't work out if I got a response at all.
I should have never, ever bought a van without a raised roof of some kind. I have spinal arthritis. I am suffering and in pain almost all the time.
The positives:
I did meet some very cool and genuine people. Some I've kept in touch with.
I learned a lot about myself and some of it was surprising.
I learned I have a great love for indoor plumbing especially in regards to the bathroom. I learned not having this in some capacity is a deal breaker. Washing my hands is something I don't want to be without and hand sanitizer just isn't good enough. However I did learn I could tolerate using a bucket.
I learned I could not live in the desert long term and thankfully before I bought property.
I learned I need to listen to myself more and others less regarding how ready I am. I know my medical issues and only I can address them. If that means taking longer or spending money to deal with the issue so be it.
There is much more but I'll save that for another day. Right now I'm in the process of having yet another repair done so I can be on my way to AZ once again. See y'all at RTR 2019.
The grouchy and reluctant van dweller.
I thought I'd done my homework. I read these and other forums for years, chatted with people online and in real life, watched hours and hours of videos, read books, watched documentaries, etc. I'd previously restored a couple of cars, had mechanical experience, knew how to use power tools, and so forth.
I was also aware of my limitations; brain damage, carpal tunnel, mental illness, arthritis and an overall grouchy personality. Still I thought I could swing it. I was wrong.
What I NEVER should have done was allow myself to be convinced I was overthinking it, I wasn't. I learned that I should have trusted my gut and not be swayed by the color glossy brochure descriptions of an amazing time and how easy and wonderful van life would be.
One thing I DID get out of this experience is I've learned a lot about myself and that it's okay, I don't have to be a van dweller. I've learned a lot from others failures as well. It's the old saying; you learn more from your failures than your successes.
The negatives:
I was very disappointed at how many people I met blamed Bob for their failures rather than taking responsibility for their choices. This mostly had to do with products that Bob reviewed and/or recommended. I can't be around this kind of person very long because I'll end up saying something they won't like. Personal accountability is a very important character trait, especially living this way.
I had a really hard time around people who demanded respect but required I earn mine. I also had a very hard time around entitled people or those who took advantage of the generosity of others and treated them badly when they didn't immediately jump on demand. I ran into a lot of these kinds of people.
It sucked that my poor sense of direction is worse than I thought it was.
I learned that initially this can be a very expensive lifestyle and until I figured things out would continue to be. This is one of those instances where I allowed myself to be mislead by videos telling me how wonderful it was. Budgeting was a nightmare because the original budget I created didn't match the reality I ended up living. Most of the time I was too broke to go anywhere or spent too much money in order to deal with things like mechanical repairs.
I had no clue how isolated I would feel. This exacerbated my depression. I couldn't sleep at night because of the insecurity I felt. Not feeling a part of "the tribe" magnified that. It got worse when despite my detailed descriptions I was unable to get the help or information I needed which made me feel frightened, alone and unimportant. I tried to hook up with others but most of the time it didn't work out if I got a response at all.
I should have never, ever bought a van without a raised roof of some kind. I have spinal arthritis. I am suffering and in pain almost all the time.
The positives:
I did meet some very cool and genuine people. Some I've kept in touch with.
I learned a lot about myself and some of it was surprising.
I learned I have a great love for indoor plumbing especially in regards to the bathroom. I learned not having this in some capacity is a deal breaker. Washing my hands is something I don't want to be without and hand sanitizer just isn't good enough. However I did learn I could tolerate using a bucket.
I learned I could not live in the desert long term and thankfully before I bought property.
I learned I need to listen to myself more and others less regarding how ready I am. I know my medical issues and only I can address them. If that means taking longer or spending money to deal with the issue so be it.
There is much more but I'll save that for another day. Right now I'm in the process of having yet another repair done so I can be on my way to AZ once again. See y'all at RTR 2019.
The grouchy and reluctant van dweller.