Thanks, Lesla! I hope you don't mind me borrowing a little inspiration from your note to style the writing of my next update...
There are going to be days like this.
There are going to be days where your trusty urine container leaks all over the place, your van needs a jump to start and before the sun has set you're frantically calling 911 because your rig has died in a spot that's completely blocking all traffic and oh, by the way, there appears to be smoke pouring in through the vents so GET OUT ASAP.
Yes, there will be days like this.
Days like this happen when you do everything right, such as trot your rig around to a variety of mechanics and backyard handymen who, amongst other things, assured me there was absolutely zero evidence of leaks to my coolant system (repeat for issues with tires, repeat for starter,
ad nauseum). Days like this will also happen from innocent error, because you'd forgotten how the summer weather would affect the fridge and it ran out your battery, or a new guy in your life distracted you or you didn't get enough sleep, or all of the above.
Whether it occurred despite the best of efforts or due to a momentary failure, these days are going to happen. And there will inevitably be not enough money, not enough time, not enough physical capacity, or emotional strength, some combination of the above, or other things -
something that makes it all seem impossible.
People bridge the gap.
So there I was, stuck in a single lane between partitions blocking everyone else behind me, when the drivers of the first two immediately behind me jumped out and came over to let me know they'd try pushing me out of the way. After a scary moment of rolling backwards towards their vehicles (I hit the emergency brake in time), we quickly worked out a plan and whether by them or others I was soon moved clear of traffic.
Not a minute later another good samaritan pulled over and asked if everything was alright, if there was anything they could do.
The firefighters checked out my vehicle and said I was good to go, they said that it wasn't smoke wafting in my vents, whatever it was. So I limped to the nearest gas station where the gorgeous young clerk who previously worked at a mechanic's shop searched high and low to identify the source of the leak, as coolant was now forming puddles all along one sideboard. She's the one who figured out it was coming out inside my van, permeating the carpet throughout the front passenger's side and then dripping out onto the runnerboards. The carpet will have to be ripped out in order to find it.
The radiator needed an entire gallon of coolant...after filling the reservoir, and required topping up again less than two hours later.
"Hi...can you come?" Were there first words out of my mouth when I called my boyfriend in between the 911 call and their arrival. He came. And even when there was no longer a logistical reason to stay, he stayed, even though we'd spend nearly all the past several days together and he'd returned home specifically to take care of a few things. He stayed with me. Just to be there. And followed me to my family's place to make sure I arrived okay.
My family's place, where they'll actually be secretly glad I broke down because it means I'll stay here, and as dysfunctional as our dynamic is there's still something about coming "home", where everything is familiar and people will try to help. The minivan I'll live in next was purchased 2 days ago, they neglected to give me the chance to see it in person myself before they got it on my behalf (the intention is to trade each other), despite me explicitly stating beforehand that it was important to me to see it first - AND, despite an almost exact repeat happening nearly a year ago when they, without consulting me, bought a broken down fixer RV intending to loan me for my use and I said it wasn't something I could utilize, which caused a massive blow-up back in the day. They've since outright stated they're glad I didn't take it because it wouldn't have worked, but nevertheless second go-around and I'm still removed from the decision-making process last minute. Hopefully this time though they've hit closer to the mark.
Despite the dysfunction and how it drives me up the wall, their generosity springing from love and concern over my well-being has given me a solid plan forward where otherwise I would have been completely at a lost to scramble up a response to dig out of this hole. It means we'll have to tweak the current plan, not start from scratch.
The most recent mechanic, who spent about 2 hours with me free of charge test driving, inspecting, topped up fluids and tire pressure, and quoted me a doable pricetag to get my idler arm replaced, was also finally able to tell me why 3 of my tires have gone out in 5 months - said they're such cheap tires to begin with he'd feel lucky to get 25K miles on them, and moreover
they're over 12 years old. No wonder. The final other two are running on borrowed time. And meanwhile the two brand new ones are already showing obvious damage from the alignment issue...
All these people. People hold me up when stuff crumples. And yes, people fall through, unfortunately. But not all of them do, and even those that do still come through in some ways, at some times. No matter how hard I try, or what I do, or how independent I prefer to be, it keeps coming back to people,
And because of people, I'm resting safely tonight without concern about tomorrow. This next week is going to be a sticky one, likely a rushed move into the minivan rather than a more thought-out process like I had hoped. That would make it the third vehicle I've moved into over a timeline of a few days. I'm sure vandwelling can be much more comfortable when you're able to arrange a proper setup before moving in, I simply have yet to encounter that particular luxury! Nevertheless, because of people, it is all doable. Life is doable. More 'adventure' than I'd prefer, but I think I'll make it out alright.