Do you have a plan for when the S#$%^T hits the fan

[Sky King]

I’ve also put both of my kids as co-users on my bank accounts, so that if they have to take over financial decisions on a moments notice, they can do so.

Of course, I trust my kids not to clean me out.

I’ve also put both of my kids as co-users on my bank accounts, so that if they have to take over financial decisions on a moments notice, they can do so.

Of course, I trust my kids not to clean me out.

I hope that works for you. I've seen money & inheritance bring out the worst in people & tear families apart Sad, Very Sad

 

[Ella1]

I'm living with my DD and family. She does not want to talk of this at all, but I bring it up occasionally as it seems necessary. I have a notebook of legal documents, all but one supplied by the state in which I live. Most need notarized, some need only two unrelated witnesses.
Durable Power of Attorney. This one is "springing"--springing into use when my doc says I'm incompetent. I changed it to two doctors. It can't be used until then and ends when I do--or when I change it.
State Advanced Health Care Directive
FIVE WISHES booklet, similar to the state one. It's a legal document in about 40 states, but not in mine. I included it because it goes beyond the states form, getting further into emotional, physical, spiritual needs/wants. Available at some medical offices and on the web.
OUT OF HOSPITAL DNR. Legal here. If I die at the grocery, for instance, hopefully the EMTs will honor it.
Physician's DNR
POST--Physician's Order for Scope of Treatment.
Some critical medical records
Living Will declaration
Copy of my Last Will and Testament.
I do have someone to help me through my last day, so included
Funeral Planning Declaration which gives the named person permission to plan the services, ceremonies, disposition of my remains (also a state form)
Certificate of bequeathal (to an institution) of my body if they'll take it, and info of crematory if they don't
Also included is a link to the n
Neptune Society's site and some of their checklist for when a person dies.
All of that is in a notebook that she can keep with her to use. Another notebook that stays in the house has the originals of all those documents.
Another book has personal and financial information, phone numbers, etc.
Hope this helps. I think most of these papers should be available on your state's website or your doctor's office, except the 5 Wishes booklet and the Neptune information.

 

[Ella1]

I think several of these papers, if they go with you to the hospital, should be honored even if you have no one to advocate for you. I know my POST, Physician's Order of Scope of Treatment is in my hospital's system, available for the medical personell to see.

 

[vanbrat]

So an update on my own "stuff". Mom went downhill REALLY fast and was combative and bit a staff person she kept walking away trying to find her husband who passed away in Oct., so I had to go up and stay with her for her final week in the assisted living place. While I was there, she hit me a few times she tried to leave about 3 am one night to go find her husband and one night about midnight she was getting dressed to go get waffles because her toaster wouldn't work. It was not plugged in. She left me a note one day and told me she was going to go down the road to find hubby so he would come home.... Her Doc is almost impossible to get ahold of and doesn't answer his messages so we couldn't get any meds to calm her down. Yeah, but don't underestimate an angry calm but determined daughter who will sit in the docs office until they get him to sign the paperwork to get her into a memory care place. That took 3 visits, the final one I offered to bring her there and let them babysit her for a few days.
Oh yea the day mom went ballistic we found out hubby most likely has lung cancer.... It has been a hell of a week... fixable, but not really a good day and the day before that I found out I need surgery to repair a hernia thing....

 

[vanbrat]

I'm living with my DD and family. She does not want to talk of this at all, but I bring it up occasionally as it seems necessary. I have a notebook of legal documents, all but one supplied by the state in which I live. Most need notarized, some need only two unrelated witnesses.
Durable Power of Attorney. This one is "springing"--springing into use when my doc says I'm incompetent. I changed it to two doctors. It can't be used until then and ends when I do--or when I change it.
State Advanced Health Care Directive
FIVE WISHES booklet, similar to the state one. It's a legal document in about 40 states, but not in mine. I included it because it goes beyond the states form, getting further into emotional, physical, spiritual needs/wants. Available at some medical offices and on the web.
OUT OF HOSPITAL DNR. Legal here. If I die at the grocery, for instance, hopefully the EMTs will honor it.
Physician's DNR
POST--Physician's Order for Scope of Treatment.
Some critical medical records
Living Will declaration
Copy of my Last Will and Testament.
I do have someone to help me through my last day, so included
Funeral Planning Declaration which gives the named person permission to plan the services, ceremonies, disposition of my remains (also a state form)
Certificate of bequeathal (to an institution) of my body if they'll take it, and info of crematory if they don't
Also included is a link to the n
Neptune Society's site and some of their checklist for when a person dies.
All of that is in a notebook that she can keep with her to use. Another notebook that stays in the house has the originals of all those documents.
Another book has personal and financial information, phone numbers, etc.
Hope this helps. I think most of these papers should be available on your state's website or your doctor's office, except the 5 Wishes booklet and the Neptune information.

After this last week We are getting all this type of paperwork in a file that both our kids will know where to find. As well as copies to carry with us.