Will help with dating sites

[offroad]

Am currently working still, so not mobile. But will help you navigate the dating sites and the responses you try to get. Am doing that myself now.

There is no reason why you should go through life without a few new friends ( friend zone is okay) or maybe if lucky an actual partner. No matter what your age.

Will be kind and considerate to help you. Just email or reply to this thread. Some call this being a wingman or wing woman, but it's just being nice.

 

[Belinda2]

Single, White, Christian, female, lifetime U.S. citizen, from Maryland in search of Single,White, Marriage-minded, U.S. citizen, Long term Born Again Christian male ages 40-70.

 

[pirateexplorer]

I'm sorta confused what exactly this thread is but my take was you were offering tips to online daters. As someone who has done a lot of online dating and someone who used to blog about it I've used most sites out there. I'll focus on the ones that are free since why pay when there's free sites and also this site is sorta basd on frugal living.

PlentyOfFish:

younger crowd though they do have all ages. compared to other dating sites i feel like plenty of fish is a bit more of a partier and hookup site than say match or even okcupid. profiels are a bit basic not a ton of details like matching you with other people. I like on POF its not all about dating many people are just looking for friends. this site does have a few upgrades you can pay for but you can actually date on the site without paying unlke many sites that lure you in calling it free but you cant read messages or respond or basically do anything besides browse without signign up.

OKCupid:

This is one of my favs. I find personally better quality of potential daters on ok cupid than POF. Much more detailed profiles in terms of a bio, ambitions, photos, questions so you can see what they are like, etc. I like the layout and format better than many other sites as well. again, free site, they do have upgrades but you can use the site without paying unless you wanna be able to see who's looked at you or some special features like that.

Craigslist:

you can meet cool people on craigslist but craigslist is more about hooking up. yeah they have casual encounters but even the dating site is almost like its casual encounters but for people who feel too sleezy posting on casual encounters sothey post on dating basically looking for one night stands as well. i have met some really cool people and some friends on cl but also a lot of flakes and crazies as well. i would suggest the need a ride section or activity partner section. not really geared towards dating but with vandwellers often being travelers maybe find someoen who needs a ride, have a friend for a ride and they also chip in for gas. same with activity partners, meet some cool people who share similar interest. probably more geared towards platonic but if you meet someone cool and share interests you never know.

Zook:

total crap, bills itself as a free site bbut you cant do anything without paying.

Skout:

Cool location based dating site. You can see people within a mile of you. I've heard this is kinda the next wave of dating sites and really ideal for vandwellers. I guess the idea being if I'm in the downtown bar district of my town I can see others who have the app in the same area and message saying hey wanna meetup for a beer. could be cool for vandwellers if your camping out in a certain area for a few days meet some people very close by. only downside the location thing kinda needs some work, it doesn't really work to very close areas like someone is at the same concert venue as me but you can see within like a mile maybe. I havn't had much luck with dating with this app. I find the layout kinda hard and last I checked it was only a mobile feature on phones not an actual website. I kept seeing the same few people over and over and wasn't really interested in anybody so didn't keep the app that long.

That's just a few of the top dating sites and my experience with them if it helps anyone out.

 

[Zil]

I will put in a word about "meetup.com". sort of a crags list of people getting together for common interests.

 

[caseyc]

I second and third Meetup.com. Great way of meeting new peeps, guys and girls, for all types of activities. This is also a good low pressure way of meeting the opposite sex, since it's really more about the activity, and less so on seeing who is compatible. Yes, I have personally met peeps on Meetup.com and I can positively say it works.

 

[akrvbob]

There is a new site to help RVers meet other RVers called http://www.rvillage.com/

I haven't even been on it yet, and it is NOT a dating site, but may be worth looking into.

Also you may want to join LOWS (Loners On Wheels) or WINS (Wandering individual Network). They aren't dating groups but meeting other mobile singles can't hurt.
Bob

 

[offroad]

All great discussions. Am going to add SENIORS MEET also called OUR TIME. Yes it's a paid web site but for those above 50 years old it's really good. You will likely get flooded with new contacts when you sign up. Was shocked and thought it was fake but turned out the site is actually trying to connect you with others.

Just remember a first meeting is not date. And you can just look for friends on this site.

Always post some pictures as that will weed out what people have for overblown high expectations.

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Belinda - I would suggest Christian mingles or Christian singles web sites. And maybe to also focus on Bible Belt states. You have an advantage in that most Christians are highly serious about dating, as they are about religion.

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Caseyc - good advice about keeping connections low pressure. If you can't be a friend you will never be a significant other.

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Anyone actively using other paid sites?

 

[caseyc]

BTW: regarding Meetup.com, that site is entirely dependent on location of where you are. You can enter a zip code range of where you are to find local Meetup groups of various interests. However, if you are located in the middle of the boonies, you will find either few or no groups at all within your zip code range. You may therefore want to expand your zip code range to say within 80 miles of where you are located. In short, Meetup.com works well if you are located in cities, or at least in towns with a large enough population for people to "meet up". Meetup.com doesn't work well if you're hiding out in the wilderness.

 

[sparky1]

Loners On Wheels is NOT A Dating site

 

[akrvbob]

sparky 1 wrote:
Loners On Wheels is NOT A Dating site
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You must not have read the whole sentence? I've highlighted it in red:

"Also you may want to join LOWS (Loners On Wheels) or WINS (Wandering individual Network). They aren't dating groups but meeting other mobile singles can't hurt."
Bob

 

[GotSmart]

Watch out for some of the high price scams that certain "Christian" dating sites use. I heard of one person suddenly finding out that they owed thousands of dollars in dues. This was Eharmony.

Do your homework please people!

 

[offroad]

Got smart - agreed. When you sign up for paid sites always pick the SINGLE MONTH only. You will quickly exhaust your pool of interesting contacts in one month, so you don't need a three month plan. Besides most will offer you a deep discount when you stop your account at the end of the month. If you want that.

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Sites also like to trick you with a renewal date that is one week after you sign up. It's a gimmick to charge you two months. Just be aware that could happen. Sites are out to make profit.

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Set a fixed window of making contacts. Then you will end that process of chasing and get less frustrated. One month and then stop. Your ego will appreciate you more by stopping.

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sparky 1 wrote:
Loners On Wheels is NOT A Dating site
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You must not have read the whole sentence? I've highlighted it in red:

"Also you may want to join LOWS (Loners On Wheels) or WINS (Wandering individual Network). They aren't dating groups but meeting other mobile singles can't hurt."
Bob

Meeting others is a gateway to increased social skills and increased chance happening with new possibilities. Don't expect date chemistry when meeting mobile singles. But you can't be a couple without starting as singles where chemistry just happens. Many times while being reserved and polite it still happens.

 

[VanLifeCrisis]

I'm a little sketchy about christian mingle myself. Meet God's match for you if you pay this website? You aren't as christians supposed to use God to turn a buck, but seems like they are. The passages about Jesus throwing the vendors out of the church comes to mind. The concept of a singles site for christians is fine but the way they market it like its Gods will for you to join makes me leary of ever joining it.

 

[GotSmart]

I'm a little sketchy about christian mingle myself. Meet God's match for you if you pay this website? You aren't as christians supposed to use God to turn a buck, but seems like they are. The passages about Jesus throwing the vendors out of the church comes to mind. The concept of a singles site for christians is fine but the way they market it like its Gods will for you to join makes me leary of ever joining it.

I think that is is somehow connect to the thinking about the "Prosperity Gospel" where you give money to the religious leader that asks the loudest, and it will come back to you 10 fold. :dodgy:

Time for me to back away from this subject. I do not want to offend~~~

 

[offroad]

Have been experimenting with TINDER app. It links into your Facebook profile (that's required) and starts finding people nearby who are single and who like your profile picture (it's about chemistry looks only at first). You then can text them if they like your picture back. It's all text communication. Suggest that you you FRIEND your contact as soon as they show interest.

 

[offroad]

Looking at UGLY BUG BALL US dating web site. Lots of matches and correspondence. Price is $40 for one month to read emails and respond. The theme is REAL PEOPLE FOR REAL DATING. Assume that means that looks are not the first focus for matches. Instead somehow your profile is. Just not sure how this would compare to MATCH. Com and others services.

 

[offroad]

Am finding the most success in the specialized dating web sites. So take advantage of those. And limit yourself to one month. Look and search for any specialized dating web sites associated with your lifestyle or hobbies. And of course stick to your age range if plus-minus five years. Anything more than that seems to bother folks.

 

[offroad]

So comes down to this. - made a few new female friends. Canceled the memberships on singles sites. Linked the friends with my Facebook account if long distance; as LDR is really hard so any familiarity via social media is a plus. Picked up a book called ITS JUST A F***ING DATE which is well written and clear about what others expect of you and what you should expect of others. Potential is there and will see.

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The only caveat is that being over 50 confuses others who are over 50. Some are real timeless Olympian athletes. Able to workout at 5am. Work 10 hours. Then go out dancing and socializing all night.

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Others want a six figure boyfriend even when the say they don't. Dinners and boat trips and big trips all require mega income. Lots of people don't realize they are projecting this boyfriend repellant spray.

Bottom line - find your happy niche to live. And be truly happy and way you can. A relationship will eventually find you.

 

[offroad]

Was reading an article about the virtual world called SECOND LIFE. Have not thought of that for a few years. Seems some people have met in there and started a real relationship later. Anyone using virtual life web site avatars and games to socialize ?

 

[Fox]

I like meetups.com because it focuses on interests and activities and is not a dating site per se. It's just a shame that there is a not a vandwelling group here. There is a tiny house group that I've checked out once, but the focus was different enough that it just wasn't my cup of tea.

Out of all of them, I agree and like OKCupid.com as the "best" free dating site out there. I can't honestly say I've dated through that, though I have friends and acquaintances who have. The results were mixed, but dating in general is like that, isn't it? At least it does work as advertised.

Second Life is actually a 3D video game-like simulator. It requires a computer with actual graphic processing power. You also end up spending a lot of time look at other people's creations, as that is part of the draw itself. And yes, people have met on Second Life as well though, in my personal opinion, that seems to be more the exception rather than the rule. I mean, if you enjoy the experience as a casual game first and a dating site second, I think you will be fine. Otherwise, strictly in terms of meeting people, I think you're better off putting your time and effort elsewhere.

As for me, well I am single too. Would love to meet someone some day, but for the moment, I'm just filling the void with more overtime work. I need the money anyways.