'is it ok to even have a pet...?" I feel touch of lightheartedness when I read the thread title... reminds me of my favorite answer to the question: "Should I do/have (fill in the blank)?" Answer: "Not if you don't have to". A few years ago I was lucky to find a sweetheart of a dog that would not have survived shelter life, lost her last year, and blessedly now have another. Hope to have a dog for the rest of my life. Simply, for me, it's a privilege to care for such a soul, makes me want to be a better person.