Introverts of the world unite!!

[Ryannis]

Haha.. okay, a bit melodramatic, I admit.

But dang, it's what I'm feeling at the moment. Wish I had known early Friday when the bf's son and family showed up that it would be... 3... DAYS... they'd be here. With constant having to entertain, feed, clean, be the babysitter, and think up something to say interesting. So what is it I'm doing right now?? Hiding out in bedroom. Rude be damned. It was supposed to be my freakin' holiday weekend off, too!!!

Had I known, and this is probably gonna wind up being a fight with said bf, I would have gotten current old rv ready to go with a sign out front that said 'Do Not Disturb' as my hideaway. As it is, I can't even go into my own damn kitchen without a high maintenance 5 y/o asking me 'what is there to eat?'. Uh... ask your mommy and daddy maybe? Yeah, cool for the parents, they get to have someone cooking food, cleaning up, entertaining kids, place to run and goof off, but I didn't sign up for this! But, as it is bf's house, I guess my feelings don't count, huh?

Mad as I am right now, I'm probably going to be living in my new rv soon. Know what, that is fine by me! Even my dad made me my own little tiny cabin to stay in at their lake place, cause he knows how I like to retreat into my own space to unwind and recharge, and that is my own family. It is my nature, always has been.

Anyways, sorry about the vent.

Think an rv for me, that is mine, will give me that much needed sanctuary and space I crave for the introvert in me. How many others out there here are introverts that do well with this type of living style??

 

[Donedirtcheap]

Hate to do this to you.......any time someone was whining about stuff a buddy of mine would tell them "Its the f en ya git fer the f en ya got". You wanted him!!!! LOL. Just relax, I'm just joking so dont get excited. The beauty of it at this point is, YOU DIDNT MARRY HIM. CHA CHING.

 

[Ryannis]

Hate to do this to you.......any time someone was whining about stuff a buddy of mine would tell them "Its the f en ya git fer the f en ya got". You wanted him!!!! LOL. Just relax, I'm just joking so dont get excited. The beauty of it at this point is, YOU DIDNT MARRY HIM. CHA CHING.

Mean!! Lol.. j/k.

Bwahaha... what they might not realize, I'm taurus, I can stay in my room til hell freezes over.

 

[kyonu]

I know what ya mean Ryannis! My ladyfriend and I are pretty introverted, and we haaaate getting out to go shopping, or out in general, because we're just tired of people in general! Once a month we take a weekend to visit the folks and get to see the great niece and nephew of hers, but we still get time to ourselves for several hours a day... But we know how you feel!

We will be going away in an RV soon to see the world ourselves and with no one else, under no ones rules... I think you oughta do the same!

 

[mockturtle]

Isn't that a little oxymoronic? If we are introverts, why would we want to unite?

 

[Zil]

Introverts want company at times. Introverts also need to get away from company. I would sell the kids.

 

[Vic.]

Measured amounts of company are alright.

And taking in socialization the way a sun absorbs sunlight. Quietly.

 

[mockturtle]

There is a lot of truth to the fact that introverts want to interact [occasionally] with other introverts. Extroverts don't understand us. I think I have posted this before but its humor also contains some truth.

Zen Sarcasm
Do not walk behind me, for I may not lead.
Do not walk ahead of me, for I may not follow.
Do not walk beside me, either.
Just pretty much leave me the hell alone.

Actually I enjoy meeting fellow travelers and talking with them, sharing information, etc. Group events aren't my thing, although I do them once in a while. The need for solitude is very high on my priority list and this is understood by other introverts. Extroverts, God bless 'em, can't conceive of why anyone would want to do anything alone.

 

[Spaceman Spiff]

Two things everyone needs to learn about themselves:
What drains your emotional tank?
What do you need to do to refill it?

I know for myself, social situations drain me; even ones that I enjoy. I need to get away from everyone to regain balance. -- Spiff

 

[Ryannis]

Yep, on all the above. I don't mind social interaction, if it's on my terms. Like knowing how long the interaction will be, and like knowing I can get out of it if I want to. It's physically and emotionally draining, and I become a grouch when I hit my threshold, I know that. Doesn't mean I don't like the people, it's just time for 'me' time.

We took a trip to Arkansas last month, and I kid you not, we didn't even get out of the rig to hook up anything before the other couple was just right there. And stayed there. That's tolerable, to a point, but gees, they never spoke!! It was a constant battle to find something to discuss with the non-talkers. They sat and stared. Argh!! At least crack a joke once in a while, please!! lol After a while of that, I'm done. This went on for 4 days. I admit, one of those days I decided to take a nap, and escaped to the rv, but when I woke up just stayed in there being quiet and reading. If I didn't probably would bit someones head off or ran off screaming my own head off.

.... How bout unite in spirit for our anti-social parts of us introverts.

 

[LeeRevell]

Introverts want to simply enjoy life's pleasures.
Extroverts want everyone else to enjoy them!

 

[TucsonAZ]

Introvert versus extrovert is how you recharge, how you take in the world. People seem to confuse social anxiety or being shy with being an introvert and they are not the same. I'm an extrovert yet I require enormous amounts of alone time, that doesn't mean I'm introverting though, my thoughts, brain and so on are focused on the external world not within. Same with an introvert being able to be in a crowd or a busy place/event and still being able to introvert without the people around them draining them.

There are of course the over the top, non-stop talking about crap nobody cares about extroverts that drive most mad but that's a type of extrovert that is made for people related things well beyond how they process the world.

Introverts often have too much self, extroverts have too little self.

 

[mockturtle]

I'm not sure I agree with your theory. Extroverts often need people because it gives them an audience or admiration or whatever types of social reassurance they require. They are not less self-centered than introverts, IMHO.

 

[jeanontheroad]

Jeez, only 3 days and you are climbing the walls? I've got the grandsons here for 3 weeks and am loving every minute. Son and family actually moved in with us for a year a while back when he changed careers and rejoined the military on active duty.

Of course, he is our own son. My DIL is a doll who went out of her way to accommodate us. The boys are our own grandchildren. Not so sure I would like to have someone else's spawn under foot any more.

 

[TucsonAZ]

I'm not sure I agree with your theory. Extroverts often need people because it gives them an audience or admiration or whatever types of social reassurance they require. They are not less self-centered than introverts, IMHO.

This topic is sort of my main hobby and interest so I'm fairly well versed on it. You're equating extroverting to other people instead of things outside of self. In the context you're using it that leaves the word "introvert" as sort of a negative thing to be. I'm using the words as a process of viewing and taking in the world of which the words are ends of a spectrum like white and black would be.

The relationship to other people and introvert/extrovert have little to nothing to do with one another. If you saw me in public or around people, at an event, you would think I was an over the top, non-stop extrovert that would drain you. That's a persona however, not my core self, it does fuel my tanks but the presence or lack of people has little to do with it.

I would say that a desire for admiration, affirmation, and reassurance are universal. If anything, I would say I know more extroverts that have an "f-u I don't care what you think" mentality as it's easier for them to see people as disposable.

Also, it isn't so much a "theory" as it's just the nature of people. If you read the work of Carl Jung, watch his videos and interviews, very interesting stuff.

 

[mockturtle]

It is more complex than Jung proposed, IMHO. For instance, I am an introvert based on the fact that I prefer being alone [or with my dog] to being with people most of the time. However, I am outgoing & friendly, enjoy chatting briefly with fellow travelers and am always willing to lend a hand when someone needs help. The fact that I've never been shy or timid does not make me an extrovert. When my husband was alive we enjoyed each other's company more than we enjoyed being in a group.

 

[TucsonAZ]

It is more complex than Jung proposed, IMHO. For instance, I am an introvert based on the fact that I prefer being alone [or with my dog] to being with people most of the time. However, I am outgoing & friendly, enjoy chatting briefly with fellow travelers and am always willing to lend a hand when someone needs help. The fact that I've never been shy or timid does not make me an extrovert. When my husband was alive we enjoyed each other's company more than we enjoyed being in a group.

You may not have read my post or understood what I was saying, you're equating introvert/extrovert to social/people and it simply isn't. It comes down to how your brain works, how you take in the world and whether you do so in an introverted or extroverted way which is completely independent of others.

Also as I mentioned, being shy or having social anxiety is independent of introvert/extrovert. I would call myself a misanthrope but that certainly doesn't exclude me from being an extrovert

 

[mockturtle]

I did read your post, have studied Jung and am not arguing with you. Merely extrapolating on an idea.

 

[highdesertranger]

this thread sounds like it's from psychology 101. highdesertranger

 

[TucsonAZ]

I did read your post, have studied Jung and am not arguing with you. Merely extrapolating on an idea.

Well, I certainly don't mind disagreeing on something as there's no other way to learn anything


If you know how Jung viewed it, we all take in the world via a process, thinking, feeling, intuition, sensation and any of those can be in an introverted or extroverted fashion. We all have and use all of them but some require more energy than others. So an introvert could be taking in or processing the world via introverted feeling, introverted sensing, introverted thinking or introverted intuition all of which would appear differently. The same would apple to an extrovert with the same four ways of processing information.

So my point was only that there is a huge spectrum there, my ex wife needed far less alone time than I do and she was an introvert. I go mad without 5-7 hours alone per day, many introverts I know are able to do with far less than that. The thing is though, in my alone time I'm still extroverting most of the time.