sephiro499 said:
Then again I've never hung out in the parking lot at night.
I'd recommend picking a night to drive around, maybe 11pm or so, drive around and park in the areas your're thinking of parking. Notice what stands out, what blends in.
I ended up switching to a minivan from a conversion van specifically for stealth. When I first set out I wasn't quite certain where I'd end up, but once I got established I realized I was most comfortable parking in uptown suburbia, where my old conversion van stood out like a sore thumb. People would do double-takes, kids would ask about it, teenagers would remark how ugly it was as they passed by and the owner of the private mailbox knew me by vehicle. I cringed. I could count the number of cargo vans in the area on a single hand, and I know them all by sight, as everyone else undoubtedly knew mine.
As a disabled young woman who's often alone, stealth is imperative to my personal safety. As an example, when I first moved to the area and put my stuff in storage, Creepy Inappropriate Guy behind the desk made it a point to mention several times that he recognized my van...while leering at me. He also questioned me about my use of the private mailbox address, only because he happened to know there were no apartmetns on that street. And I'm standing there kicking myself.
Switching to a minivan, especially a new-ish popular model ('04 Sienna) means that suddenly I can be lazier about parking. No one regognizes my van but me. I often find the exact same generation model and color parked within a block of me, if not more. And I no longer feel the need to rotate acutal areas, like I used to - now I rotate between parts of neighborhood, not between multiple neighborhoods.
There are places I could have parked the conversion van where it would have blended in just fine, with lots of other RV's and full timers, many living in non-operational vehicles. I didn't feel safe in those places, though. Also, parking in downtown Seattle with a full size van is practically out of the question. In a minivan, I find it doable.
Only you can know your area. It's possible the first vehicle you pick won't be ideal, but that doesn't necessarily mean you'll have problems -- if you're careful it'll likely only mean that you have to move around more, or you can't park as close to where you'd prefer to. Things like that.