Breaking Away....

[Gypsy108]

It finally happened...the light at the end of the tunnel is becoming clear now...the truth of this bastard I've been with has been revealed many times....but my time is up to stay for survival reasons.....i can't stand it anymore being with him.....I am making my plans to leave soon...i am very scared of leaving my "comfort" zone in hell....but i know i must for my own health...and my health has been going down the tubes living this lie.....i know i will be leaving soon...i can feel it in my bones....along with all the other aches & pains.....i pray to the Universe to guide me and help me through this....to "break on through to the other side".....

 

[gsfish]

Best wishes for your "New Life" Stay strong. You have many friends here Mz Gypsy.

Guy

 

[Gypsy108]

:heart: :heart: :heart:

 

[WanderingRose]

When you are ready, just go.

Do NOT tell him you are leaving, or otherwise communicate your exit plans.

Good luck to you.

 

[Gypsy108]

Nope...i've done it before...i'm home alone all day so i have time to get ready....i just gotta wait a few weeks before i get some money....in the meantime make my plans....he's done so much shit behind my back...i don't feel guilty one bit leaving his ass again....i gotta hang around for my 2nd covid vaccine on the 23rd anyways....and a few more packages i'm expecting .....and get the title to my new (old) vechicle...

 

[Gypsy108]

I did join a gym recently for the purpose of showering on the road and getting into better shape.....

 

[WanderingRose]

Sounds like you have a good plan.

Now...go, and stay gone.

 

[Gypsy108]

:heart:

 

[mattvei]

don't know if domestic or emotional abuse is involved, but suggest you consider reaching out to some support groups. Can validate your emotional upheaval and help you transition to independence. Now is not the time to "go it alone'

 

[maki2]

This is the right time of year to go as it gives you the best weather for getting your new living quarters sorted out.

Look in the mirror numerous times a day and do affirmations to keep your plan on track. Leaving activity can be disgused as a deep spring cleaning. So talk that up for a cover story for the activity. There is no way to hide all the getting ready to go stuff, it will quickly be noticed by him.

 

[Gypsy108]

don't know if domestic or emotional abuse is involved, but suggest you consider reaching out to some support groups. Can validate your emotional upheaval and help you transition to independence. Now is not the time to "go it alone'

I’m calling the veterans administration for help to get into this apartment sooner than later ( I’m on a waiting list that could be years).   But until then I will plan on living in my car...yes I think it’s wise to get as much help as you can when you are in my situation....
He is not violent in the physical sense...just always gaslighting and manipulative....a narcissist.....

 

[Gypsy108]

This is the right time of year to go as it gives you the best weather for getting your new living quarters sorted out.

Look in the mirror numerous times a day and do affirmations to keep your plan on track. Leaving activity can be disgused as a deep spring cleaning. So talk that up for a cover story for the activity.  There is no way to hide all the getting ready to go stuff, it will quickly be noticed by him.

Yes I knew I’d be doing something when the weather got better...
ive been living like a hostage and know how to survive until I leave...

 

[desert_sailing]

Look in the mirror numerous times a day and do affirmations 

And all these years later I thought that ONLY happened on SNL.

 

[outermostsoul2]

I’m calling the veterans administration for help to get into this apartment sooner than later ( I’m on a waiting list that could be years).   But until then I will plan on living in my car...yes I think it’s wise to get as much help as you can when you are in my situation....
He is not violent in the physical sense...just always gaslighting and manipulative....a narcissist.....

good luck.... way back in the 80s when I was a single mom I found out to my surprise that once transitioned from safe and "normal" housing that 3 year waiting list for low income housing turned into a one week wait.  They found me a better place than the one I applied to that had an opening about 30 miles away.

 

[maki2]

Dont forget to get a private mailbox now so you can do your change of address and set up mail forwarding. That way you wont have to do any contact or have conflicts about getting your essential mail such as vehicle tabs and titles or letters from cell phone services, insurance and such. Don't wait, do it right way, in fact do it today. Then contact all your various business entities and give them that address right away. It sometimes takes a while for their systems to make changes. Leaving without notice can create animosity and that could result in essential mail going into the garbage.

 

[RoamerRV428]

You found your worth! Act on what makes you love yourself and what you want out of life.
Nothing should ever stop you point blank and the good thing is thru all this time, you were finding you path right to this event, taking you on as an individual who wants what they want and deserve and leaving the baggage by the wayside very happy for you and don't be scared, MANY people can help you, there are FAB people out there to help others along best wishes and a new darn fun journey coming to you truly!

 

[eDJ_]

[font=Tahoma,Verdana,Arial,sans-serif]You may want to do some reading which could better enable you to disappear and not be found.[/font]

[font=Tahoma,Verdana,Arial,sans-serif]There are many books in this genre:[/font]

[font=Tahoma,Verdana,Arial,sans-serif]How to disappear completely and never be found   by Doug Richmond

Scram: Relocating under a new identity  by  James S Martin

How to hide things in public places  by Dennis Fiery

How to get lost and start all over again  by Gary Clark

How to find missing persons: A handbook for investigators by Ronald Eriksen

Such books may be found in Libraries, on Amazon, or in larger cities that have
anarchist book stores.[/font]

[font=Tahoma,Verdana,Arial,sans-serif]Consider using a "Burner Phone" Cell and turning off your Cell if you have one with a plan.(making it harder to trace you)[/font]

Consider buying new license plates for your car so it will have different numbers and or theme of the state.

[font=Tahoma,Verdana,Arial,sans-serif]Consider finding a very small closet size storage building place to stow your stuff (4x8 or smaller) Preferably out of sight from the road so that when you use it no one will see you by accident.[/font]
[font=Tahoma,Verdana,Arial,sans-serif] [/font]
[font=Tahoma,Verdana,Arial,sans-serif]It may benefit you to get to another state ASAP and register your car there.  If he has friends who are Cops he may ask them to see if they can spot your car. [/font]

[font=Tahoma,Verdana,Arial,sans-serif]There are places for abused women where you can be taken in in secret, given a place to "decompress" and get on your feet to make your next move.  Look into that. [/font]

[font=Tahoma,Verdana,Arial,sans-serif]In a lot of states it is illegal to live in a storage facility.  But if you had a cot, sleeping bag, flashlight etc you may have to stealth camp in one for a few nights.  Get in about dark and out before daylight.  Some of these places have survey cameras.  Those who are on the run often make a friend who will drop them off at the place and pick them up the next morning. Then drop them off at their car.  They may place a lock on the door so that the door is locked open. Still at a glance the building looks locked.[/font]


[font=Tahoma,Verdana,Arial,sans-serif]If necessary,  consider legally changing your name.  You could always change it back in the future.  You could retain a Lawyer and make a statement of your situation with him/her just to have it on record.  (historic record)  It could be valuable later if trouble arose. If you do this find a Lawyer who practices "family law".  Type up a document stating your situation in detail and meet with the lawyer at a slow time in their office.  [/font]

[font=Tahoma,Verdana,Arial,sans-serif]These are just some thoughts to consider.[/font]

 

[Gypsy108]

good luck.... way back in the 80s when I was a single mom I found out to my surprise that once transitioned from safe and "normal" housing that 3 year waiting list for low income housing turned into a one week wait.  They found me a better place than the one I applied to that had an opening about 30 miles away.

yes..i hope they will be able to do that for me...there are sooooooooooo many people on waiting lists...my advantage is that i am considered elderly     I am a veteran &  low income.....thanks  :heart:

 

[Gypsy108]

Dont forget to get a private mailbox now so you can do your change of address and set up mail forwarding. That way you wont have to do any contact or have conflicts about getting your essential mail such as vehicle tabs and titles or letters from cell phone services, insurance and such.  Don't wait, do it right way, in fact do it today. Then contact all your various business entities and give them that address right away. It sometimes takes a while for their systems to make changes. Leaving without notice can create animosity and that could result in essential mail going into the garbage.

Yes, i will do that   :heart:

 

[Gypsy108]

You found your worth!  Act on what makes you love yourself and what you want out of life.
Nothing should ever stop you point blank and the good thing is thru all this time, you were finding you path right to this event, taking you on as an individual who wants what they want and deserve and leaving the baggage by the wayside   very happy for you and don't be scared, MANY people can help you, there are FAB people out there to  help others along   best wishes and a new darn fun journey coming to you truly!

Yes...but i knew it for a long time...it was torturous knowing i was doing this against my will (staying) .  Every time i leave i feel exhilarated and alive & strong .....and i KNOW there are good people out there I ALWAYS MEET THEM  :heart:  Thank you  Roamer...