Yes, I want to see if I'm attracted to them before I contact them. I couldn't imagine contacting someone, asking for a picture, and then either telling them I'm not attracted to them or just not talking to them anymore. That would be harsh.
I am more concerned with what is (or isn't) inside a potential partner's head than what the head (or the rest of them) looks like. I wasn't always that way, but somewhere along the way, I got edgamucated.
Amen to that, I prefer what they are and not what they look like!!!!
That's understandable. When I was really young, my first concern was what the guy looked like. Right now I'm concerned about both - who he is and what he looks like. I'm sure one day, if I'm blessed to live that long and find myself single, I'll only care about who he is. That being said, that's not where I am today so I'm going to honor this phase of my life today. Today I want someone I'm attracted to physically and mentally.
IF .... I were into guys, buddy, you'd be in trouble LOL
Hmm, that would imply that it's an old-age thing. I imagine quite a few people would differ. You know what they say about the motion of the ocean.
Everybody's different. While most people within reproductive age require some level of attractiveness that they like, that's not everybody's truth. Other people are more interested in intelligence, humor, money, body shape, supportively, etc. I have noticed the older people get, the less physical attractiveness seems to matter. They seem to focus more on companionship, health, and financial independence. Then again, most of the older women I know aren't really interested in finding a partner. They all say if it happens, great; if not, great. They're happy either way.Hmm, that would imply that it's an old-age thing. I imagine quite a few people would differ. You know what they say about the motion of the ocean.
I wonder how old John Donne was when he wrote
But he who loveliness within
Hath found, all outward loathes,
For he who color loves, and skin,
Loves but their oldest clothes.
?
I've probably had as many crushes on homely people as handsome ones -- including, as a teenager working in a theater, the swashbuckling Cyrano de Bergerac but not the hopelessly conventional-looking actor who portrayed him. Fell in and out of love every night
A photo is often a poor predictor anyway of how someone looks in real life, when they're animated (or droning on, or dissing the waiter). To me it's always been more about the interplay between what you've got and what you do with it. Faces are weird that way.
Are you STILL calling me a Surrender Monkey??? I'll have you know I deeply resemble that!!! I mean... Uhhh.. DOH!!!For the Pirate In You
Very mischievous
Parlay is English, borrowed from the french.
If you've ever been in a "southern honky-tonk" at the last call and closing time... it's a fact that alcohol fueled bleary eyes and "urges" care not a whit about beauty, shape or much of anything else for some folks. In his younger years, my dang brother for one..... <smh>
In my experience, it doesn't have to be southern or honky tonk. Everyone (including myself) starts looking better at "closing time" - no matter where you hail from.Well, I don't have an oar in the water here, but just couldn't stand not replying either... ;-)
If you've ever been in a "southern honky-tonk" at the last call and closing time... it's a fact that alcohol fueled bleary eyes and "urges" care not a whit about beauty, shape or much of anything else for some folks. In his younger years, my dang brother for one..... <smh>
Well, I don't have an oar in the water here, but just couldn't stand not replying either... ;-)
If you've ever been in a "southern honky-tonk" at the last call and closing time... it's a fact that alcohol fueled bleary eyes and "urges" care not a whit about beauty, shape or much of anything else for some folks. In his younger years, my dang brother for one..... <smh>
I've been in several southern honky-tonka and found people do, in fact, care about beauty. It's just everybody looks way better under the influence of alcohol.
