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RevDrMartian said:
Well, they already know I am not getting married or ever having kids- I was never shy about telling them that I had zero interest in fathering squalling, stinking maggots. They are pretty cool with that thought at least, namely because my brother has three boys of his own, so their line is secure.

AHEM!  SPEAKING AS A WOMAN.......MOTHER.......GRANDMOTHER........AND ONLY FOR MYSELF.

THANK YOU FOR NOT SPAWNING!   "STINKING MAGGOTS"????   DO YOU KISS YOUR MOTHER WITH THAT MOUTH?

                               TJB
 
Tjaybird said:
   DO YOU KISS YOUR MOTHER WITH THAT MOUTH?

                               TJB

Yup! I don't like kids!

I don't give a rat's ass if others want them, but I prefer not to have them within 50 yards of me at any given time!  :p
 
I don't think anyone cares if you like children, that's up to you. But I think many of us are concerned when you are insulting and degrading to other humans.
Bob
 
akrvbob said:
I don't think anyone cares if you like children, that's up to you. But I think many of us are concerned when you are insulting and degrading to other humans.
Bob

Welp, I have to say that I do love my young (4-to-9 years old) nephews and would take a bullet for them any day of the week, just so long as I do not have to deal with them for more than an hour at a time. 

Meanwhile, you got a sponsored article that refers to police as 'pork' in an article on your main page, so I'd say you got a rocks-and-glass-houses thing going on here, Bob.
 
RevDrMartian said:
Welp, I have to say that I do love my young (4-to-9 years old) nephews and would take a bullet for them any day of the week, just so long as I do not have to deal with them for more than an hour at a time. 

Meanwhile, you got a sponsored article that refers to police as 'pork' in an article on your main page, so I'd say you got a rocks-and-glass-houses thing going on here, Bob.

Care to post a link to that?  

As a single father that raised three daughters, I also am offended by your attitude.
 
My advice would be to think of 'WHY'...this lifestyle interests you. Are you running from society because you have not been successful or you have issues with interpersonal relationships? I am not talking success with a income. This life and the 'other' life involve interacting in the world too. I can tell you after four years of living as a nomad that this is not a solution if you have inherent issues. At 33 you will need to work and interact with a variety of people and to be successful. If you cannot do that then you will fail and starve. There are much easier ways to live...this is not the easiest way if you are using this as an escape or do not have the 'inner' tools necessary to be successful. I think you need a lot of 'Reflection' and 'Thought' before you jump into a situation you might not fully understand....
 
I understand, although I don't share, your reticence over raising kids, after all the very early part of the experience can be very unpleasant, as many of them do tend to bawl a lot, and you have to clean them up when they 'go' and when they eat, and taking care of a baby can be very stressful
I think the backlash is at your use of the word 'maggot'
A human child is not a maggot, it doesn't grow into an annoying insect (just an annoying teenager ;D) and I'm not surprised many are upset with that characterization
At 49, my chance at reproduction is gone, and I won't risk marriage for the opportunity anyway, but I do see why you're getting kickback
I too would like to see a link to an article containing 'pork' references re police officers
 
Kids are not for everyone. I appreciate those that do not breed when they are not ready to give it all.   

When I was  child, my greatest problem was not being treated like I had any brains.  As a parent, I always talked to my children like they were adults, (Full sentences and a tone of voice used with equals.) I find that all the kids in my family respond much better to this attitude.  

Today my oldest is getting close to 30, and knows that I will support her in almost anything.  (Must be basically legal) My youngest has an attitude about her ability to do or be anything.  I just tell her to prove it, and it has amazed me more than once.  (Brain Camp, Specialized training at West Point, Semester in England. BA Cultural Studies at 22.) She did it without me pushing her.  

If you set your mind to do anything, and stick with a comprehensive plan, ~~~  More power to you.  :D
 
The comments about children and others are telling. I give you the honest answer from my experience and not the 'popular' answer. If you carry your baggage into another living situation then you will experience the exact same results.....You need to do lots of reflection and then make decisions.
 
http://www.cheaprvliving.com/survivalist-truck-dweller/

"...Dan…how do you bypass ‘legalities,’ like if you have a firearm, etc.
I have with me my compound bow with 15 arrows, I was going to bring my AR-7 survival rifle. I figured that I really have nothing to hide but the Florida police are asses and I want to avoid pork interference, so I left it at home."

That article started me on my path, I respectfully ask that it not be removed because of this thread.
 
akrvbob said:
I don't think anyone cares if you like children, that's up to you. But I think many of us are concerned when you are insulting and degrading to other humans.
Bob
Well I don't like kids around me that much, but I have three grown daughters and in a couple of day I will gain my fifth grandchild.  I'm also a certified archery instructor and I deal with a lot of Scouts.    While I don't want to have children around me at all time, I'm very diplomatic about it.  I agreed with Bob in this issued and I don't thing insulting or degrading others is the answer.  We all come here for answer and people would be more willing to interact with you, if were a bit more polite.  You should realized that at some point in your life you would have to interact with other and how you do it would determined how much or how little other people would assist you. :)
 
Lafnbug said:
http://www.cheaprvliving.com/survivalist-truck-dweller/

"...Dan…how do you bypass ‘legalities,’ like if you have a firearm, etc.
I have with me my compound bow with 15 arrows, I was going to bring my AR-7 survival rifle. I figured that I really have nothing to hide but the Florida police are asses and I want to avoid pork interference, so I left it at home."

That article started me on my path, I respectfully ask that it not be removed because of this thread.

Thanks for the link.

FIRST;  that is not a "sponsored" article, but an opinion piece from another site. It is quite informative, but it only has the one thing that is not allowed by direct posters.  It goes on to ask;

 "Have you had problems with the police?
I have had no problems with police or neighbors anywhere, even when I was staying in Ohio, West Virginia, or Pennsylvania."

You are cherry picking terminology to justify your boo boo.  

Just be nice, and remember, be kind.  ;)
 
Lafnbug said:
http://www.cheaprvliving.com/survivalist-truck-dweller/

"...Dan…how do you bypass ‘legalities,’ like if you have a firearm, etc.
I have with me my compound bow with 15 arrows, I was going to bring my AR-7 survival rifle. I figured that I really have nothing to hide but the Florida police are asses and I want to avoid pork interference, so I left it at home."

That article started me on my path, I respectfully ask that it not be removed because of this thread.

Thank you for posting this link.  I remember reading it months ago and when he got to the "catamaran" gift my mind went promptly to :)  " WATERWORLD" :) which is a all time favorite of mine and also some of the grandkids.

While I do find the "pork interference" reference to be  IMO poor taste I am not offended by it.  I could be since I have a degree in Criminal Justice and worked in that field for nearly 5 years, I'm just not....I've been called worse.

There is a lot of really good info in the interview and I too hope it stays right where it is.  Especially since he was living out of a small truck and I drive a Ranger 4x4 which may or may not be what I travel in.....the jury is still out on that one.                                    Texas Jbird
 
I coached a baseball team once, never again, not because I don't like kids, it is the parents that are the problem. The world has an over population issue so anyone that is not having kids is doing us all a favor thanks REV. The joys of raising children is overated, the state and the internet have taken over most of the parenting, so other then making sure there are microwavable food around and topping up their phones, there is not that much to do with children these days. I find no joy doing either of those things..
 
I'm thinking a gentle reminder that he, too, was once a Little One, is sufficient. I'm sure his parents, like the majority, just want the best for their offspring.

They just haven't met us yet! :D
 
RevDrMartian said:
Welp, I have to say that I do love my young (4-to-9 years old) nephews and would take a bullet for them any day of the week, just so long as I do not have to deal with them for more than an hour at a time. 

Meanwhile, you got a sponsored article that refers to police as 'pork' in an article on your main page, so I'd say you got a rocks-and-glass-houses thing going on here, Bob.

That guest post is probably 8 years old, and I have no idea if I ever noticed that before or not--I have no recollection of it. However, I can say this with all honesty that on the issue of cop hating and bashing I have a clean conscience!!!

On this forum I have zero tolerance for cop-hating. That will get your post deleted very quickly.

You may think that's not true, but if we did a poll on it the result would be overwhelming that people who have been here for any length of time know not to bash cops here.

I could spend the rest of my life making a list of my tremendous number of faults, cop-hating and bashing will not be on that list.

BUT!!!! we are far off-topic, let's get back to the topic at hand.
Bob
 
Well, be glad that your parents care enough about you to be concerned but realize the concern stems from ignorance about the lifestyle.

One funny thing that happened to me was I was living in Peru where terrorist acts along with the everyday threat of being robbed was a daily concern at the time. Before you got into your car you automatically dropped down and peered underneath to make sure there were no obvious signs of a bomb. Believe me, at that time it was necessary. Going back and forth from work I had to use a armored vehicle and take different routes and choose different times each day. Such was life at that time. I took a vacation and went to Central Florida to a sleepy little town to visit my father. I wanted to go over to the mall to do a bit of shopping and asked to use his car. He was very reluctant because he was really concerned for my safety as there had been a purse snatching in the parking lot there about a week before.... I could only stare in stunned silence at him.


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RevDrMartian said:
Well, they already know I am not getting married or ever having kids- I was never shy about telling them that I had zero interest in fathering squalling, stinking maggots. They are pretty cool with that thought at least, namely because my brother has three boys of his own, so their line is secure.

You were a kid once.  Kids don't have a say when being brought into this world so i'd cut them a little slack.  Maybe do a little self reflection and make sure you aren't harboring any feelings that make you feel that way towards them.
 
One thing that you may try is to bring in the opinions of well respected individuals.

“Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness, and many of our people need it sorely on these accounts. Broad, wholesome, charitable views of men and things cannot be acquired by vegetating in one little corner of the earth all one’s lifetime.” – Mark Twain, The Innocents Abroad

“The world is a book, and those who don't travel only read one page.”
― Augustine of Hippo (better known as St. Augustine)

“Don’t tell me how educated you are, tell me how much you have travelled.”
― Anonymous, The Quran

“For my part, I travel not to go anywhere, but to go. I travel for travel’s sake. The great affair is to move.” – Robert Louis Stevenson

“Traveling – it leaves you speechless, then turns you into a storyteller.” – Ibn Battuta

“The gladdest moment in human life, me thinks, is a departure into unknown lands.” – Sir Richard Burton

“No place is ever as bad as they tell you it’s going to be.” – Chuck Thompson

“I am not the same, having seen the moon shine on the other side of the world.” – Mary Anne Radmacher

“We travel not to escape life, but for life not to escape us.” – Anonymous

“The man who goes alone can start today; but he who travels with another must wait till that other is ready.” – Henry David Thoreau

“The use of traveling is to regulate imagination with reality, and instead of thinking of how things may be, see them as they are.” – Samuel Johnson

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.” – Mark Twain

I lifted most of these from http://expertvagabond.com/best-travel-quotes/ There are many more there.
 
On seeing the thread title, I assumed you were maybe in your teens or early twenties. At 33, if you are still paralyzed by what your parents might think, you have bigger issues than just changing your lifestyle.
 
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