<br /><br />Though I didn't lock the first thread, I will lock this one.<br /><br /><br /></span></span><span id="post_message_1276145063"><span id="post_message_1275489382">There are half a dozen forums I'm somewhat actively involved in - each of them involving a "special interest" of mine. I'm moderator on three of them. I find I need to take time off from one or the other every 6-8 weeks for a bit of time just to readjust - put everything into perspective and try not to see things with a cynical eye. While I enjoy both the information and people, there is so much more to do outside! <img rel="lightbox" src="/images/boards/smilies/smile.gif" class="bbc_img" /><br /><br />I will offer this observation that I've made privately to some of the other mods:<br /><br /><span id="post_message_1275489024">This group attracts folks who desperately look for independence, freedom and to be out from under the yoke of "the man." I get that, really I do. I'm much the same way and the reason why I consider myself moderate when my views are actually some of the extremes of both political parties: Wanna gun? Act responsibly and it is nobody else's business. Want to marry another guy (or girl/girl?) This effects others how? Go for it. Grow some weed for personal consumption? Couldn't care less. Want an abortion? Not a decision I would make anymore but I wouldn't remove that decision from others. There is more than one path to happiness and enlightenment.<br /><br />I'm strongly independent. Willing to help those who try to help themselves, unwilling to just carry those along who won't help themselves. Want a hand to get back on your feet? Done. Want to be taken care of by others for life when you are capable of taking care of yourself? Not gonna happen. I feel like what others do is their own business as long as it doesn't effect others and all participants are adults and of sound mind.<br /><br />Unfortunately, this same personality type bristles at any perceived suppression of their freedom.</span><br /><br />What many folks forget is that a forum is like a dinner party to which you've been invited in someones home. Someone has invited you to camp individually as a group in their yard. Nobody wants to "stifle" you but your freedom ends where the other persons nose begins. It's not a democracy but we're all guests. Some of us were asked to be campground hosts. We're supposed to gently remind everyone of the rules of the campground owner. Asking that, while he has extended his place to you as an invited guest, that you behave as a good guest and not cause everyone to be uncomfortable or not enjoy their visit. If you're the loud drunk, shooting fireworks off at 2am, yelling, getting into fights with others, etc., you will be asked to leave. <br /><br />I check in every day or two for 15-30 minutes. Steve puts in a lot more time and has had some great, thoughtful responses. Katie spends an inordinate amount of time and loses sleep over not hurting folks feelings and doing the right thing. <br /><br />If you disagree with a mod over their own personal feelings, that's just a forum. Everyone can disagree but be polite. If you want to insult and belittle them personally when they're just trying to do their job - and I speak of Katie specifically right now - then somewhere on the internet there is a place calling your name but it's just not here. Once is an error. Twice is a troll. <br /><br />At least one forum I'm on, there is an infraction for "Mod Sass." Not when you personally disagree but when you want to argue about their decisions as a mod. Once is an infraction, twice is banned. This forum has about 25,000 members and the act is codified. Here, much smaller and things are played by ear though seldom is a major decision made without group involvement.</span>
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