saracatherine
Active member
Hello, new here, have intro'd myself in the general intro thread but also especially interested in what women are up to here.
I'm 46, and happily married since I was 19. We're childless by choice and get along well and like our lives. BUT...
After 27 years of marriage I sometimes feel like okay, I've experienced that, now I just want to be alone. I go through bouts of just scrolling through small apartments in various cities that interest me, imagining my life alone. My husband knows all about this and we laugh about it, but the feeling for me can get very intense. I don't want to divorce or separate...I love him and like him, I just sometimes want to be like Katharine Hepburn who said of her relationship with Spencer Tracy, "Live separately and visit often."
Then I stumbled onto this whole van/RV living thing recently and feel like this is a really good potential solution to that issue. I can put together my own little mobile quarters and get away when I want to, or having him along when I want to. I make my own money as a self-employed person in a career I can take with me anywhere, and I feel fortunate in this. (Health insurance is an issue right now as my husband is also freelancing, and I'm worried about what's going on with ACA and AHCA...but I guess everyone is worried about that.)
I'm in very early stages of thinking about all this. Thinking I will probably be ready to look for a deal on some sort of vehicle in the fall and work on it to be ready next spring to take out.
Aside from the needing space and freedom issue, I also just like the idea in general of having a self-suffiency plan. I grew up in a very financially unstable situation and I hate that feeling of "oh no what if x y z happens" - I want to KNOW that IF x y z happens I will be fine and prepared.
I have a lot to learn about mechanical things. I have never been good at DIY stuff, I'm not good at even simple measuring and have a terrible sense of direction and have never even been able to do a craft...like I am the kind of person who calls a handyman to put up a towel rack. I have trouble with spacial imagining or something, and definitely trouble with math. I know I'm smart and can learn some things quickly but I feel a piece of my brain is missing there! So that's something I need to gain confidence in and get over. Which will involve getting over my reluctance to ask for help.
I'm 46, and happily married since I was 19. We're childless by choice and get along well and like our lives. BUT...
After 27 years of marriage I sometimes feel like okay, I've experienced that, now I just want to be alone. I go through bouts of just scrolling through small apartments in various cities that interest me, imagining my life alone. My husband knows all about this and we laugh about it, but the feeling for me can get very intense. I don't want to divorce or separate...I love him and like him, I just sometimes want to be like Katharine Hepburn who said of her relationship with Spencer Tracy, "Live separately and visit often."
Then I stumbled onto this whole van/RV living thing recently and feel like this is a really good potential solution to that issue. I can put together my own little mobile quarters and get away when I want to, or having him along when I want to. I make my own money as a self-employed person in a career I can take with me anywhere, and I feel fortunate in this. (Health insurance is an issue right now as my husband is also freelancing, and I'm worried about what's going on with ACA and AHCA...but I guess everyone is worried about that.)
I'm in very early stages of thinking about all this. Thinking I will probably be ready to look for a deal on some sort of vehicle in the fall and work on it to be ready next spring to take out.
Aside from the needing space and freedom issue, I also just like the idea in general of having a self-suffiency plan. I grew up in a very financially unstable situation and I hate that feeling of "oh no what if x y z happens" - I want to KNOW that IF x y z happens I will be fine and prepared.
I have a lot to learn about mechanical things. I have never been good at DIY stuff, I'm not good at even simple measuring and have a terrible sense of direction and have never even been able to do a craft...like I am the kind of person who calls a handyman to put up a towel rack. I have trouble with spacial imagining or something, and definitely trouble with math. I know I'm smart and can learn some things quickly but I feel a piece of my brain is missing there! So that's something I need to gain confidence in and get over. Which will involve getting over my reluctance to ask for help.