Scott7022
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So what do you do when dreams come true and you get everything you wanted from the first idea shared between you and the ice cubes in your drink? Well, you have achieved a goal. You are at the place you wanted to in fact be at.
Ok, so what happens when you don't like it? You move on. You change you or you change the goal!
BUT I CAN'T CHANGE!!!
BUT YOU CAN'T RUN AN AIR CONDITIONER OFF A BATTERY!!!
Both of these statements are bullshit.
Dreams and goals are as fleeting as the weather for most people. They have an idea or a plan and tomorrow brings the realities of life and they lose the goal or dream to the realities of getting up and earning a dollar for bread. A great line from a favorite band of mine. "...you took my dreams from me... No, I didn't my love I put them in a box right next to my own..." A person doesn't have to love music to see the truth and tragedy in that line. If you are lucky you get a few of your little dreams.
If you're really unlucky and work like a bastard, you get a few of the big ones.
I am going to write this about me. But, not to brag or boast about me. I write this as a mirror. Look at the words, read them for how they touch you, and make you reflect. Take from that reflection what you like, but please share in the spirit of love and compassion that pushed me to write it.
My Grandfather was a soldier in WW1 and my Father in WW2 (Navy intelligence). So, I wanted to be as well. It was a dream and a goal. I was an extroverted, type A personality person and I reached that goal.
I returned to civilian life still and extroverted person but one that had difficulty controlling aspects of their personality. Crowds bothered me, and loud sounds caused flinch reactions. They call it hyper vigilance and it is a pretty good indication you have PTSD. Because of my unique psychological make up the usual tools used to treat PTSD were not going to be effective. I was lucky enough to be referred to one of the best and ground breaking psychologist on the subject. I was lucky he went with an alternative approach rather than the big pharma medicate and forget. After reaching that goal I had another. To work in Law enforcement.
I enjoyed that goal for many years, and managed to come to terms with how my PTSD effected me and limit how it affected others in my life. It was a ton of hard work. Alternative fixes are slow but more permanent than traditional cures. It also gave me a unique insight into the day to day interactions I had with the rather unusual rouges gallery my career brought me in touch with. It made it easy to be part of the YARC here on the forum. Then I wanted to write a book.
I took writing in school to fill out a full time semester and never thought I would use it past report writing. It took me two years of writing four hours a day to finish the manuscript and then another year of editing. Unfortunately the help available for writers is not like the help we have here. Or at least it wasn't when I finished Grey Redemption. It got accepted and I was overjoyed and then it got demands for changes and I worked at those with a company editor. Then I was asked to change US Navy to African Navy and that got into a political drama that resulted in a book going to press that I wasn't proud of. Regardless, it became popular with a segment of society, and ended up in the various sandboxes in the world. I got a following and was amazed when my Twitter followers numbered over 35 thousand. I was invited to the London Book Fair and asked to speak. I was no longer Scott. I had achieved my goal and I was the Scott D. Covey writer who left the naughty sexy bits in a military/espionage thriller. I flew to London, stayed at the Savoy, received death threats for disclosing secrets in the secret world of private armies. I sat and signed books longer than I had ever found myself sitting in a classroom. I was popular and people wanted moments of my time and I hated it. It wasn't who I was. I was Scott. The only THE in my family was my cat The Piker. I didn't like the book, I wasn't proud of it. It had far too many errors in spelling and grammar. I had been screwed by my first publisher and dumped into a cue with another house best known for taking advantage of their clients. But like the Rocky Horror Picture Show it became liked despite being what it was. People didn't care, they just wanted to hear me talk about it, the process, the idea, why I broke the no sex rule... It was my goal and dream and I never thought about what came next. I never saw the stress this monster would grow into and create.
I went to parties in New York City and drank a little too much as I had a handler (they called him an assistant) to whisper the names of the people that approached. I was featured in the NYC Book Fair as well. My goal was complete I had arrived, and I was miserable.
So I changed, I got people to do the things that created the most stress. I like control and I hate trusting others with things that represent me. But I knew I couldn't become the person that this success needed me to be. Control is an illusion I told myself, over and over, to try and believe it. I changed just enough to survive and not look like a flake. No one believes you when you say you don't like the attention. You make money off the attention, it drives sales. A friend once said a business that is too busy is led by an idiot. But, "I was Scott and not a business," I replied. "Yup, see run by an idiot!"
I wanted to run away and an opportunity presented itself, allowing just that. I jumped too quickly at it. Buddha teaches to never make a decision when you are Happy, Angry, or Depressed. I failed to listen. I also had websites, and blogs to keep up and while others did the day to day I had to do the content. The person that handles my FB author page thought a poll would be good to see if fans wanted a prequel or a sequel. The numbers of followers had dropped and he wanted, it was his job, to get them back up. Not that I did. No control remember? Well, the poll came back with a sequel. I hadn't asked the question, a person doing his job had and now I had to write a second book. I wrote Redemption's Bullet priced it in the basement and published it myself. To say thanks for looking past the mistakes in the first one and finished the series in my mind. I was, and am, proud of that book. I think it tells a great story from a different angle, and the writting is tight. Just so this doesn't get construed as a sales pitch and not an attempt to help someone suffering from success, it is available on torrent sites and I promise I won't sue you, and it is too small for Amazon to notice. Read it for free. Some still want more, but I think my days of writing are done. It just simply became more of a monster than I could handle. Not enough of a monster to pay people to handle it for me and I couldn't adapt to become that person.
So there is your mirror, Sir. I have reached out today as you did years ago. Different situations, different people but with the same emotion, Love.
Ok, so what happens when you don't like it? You move on. You change you or you change the goal!
BUT I CAN'T CHANGE!!!
BUT YOU CAN'T RUN AN AIR CONDITIONER OFF A BATTERY!!!
Both of these statements are bullshit.
Dreams and goals are as fleeting as the weather for most people. They have an idea or a plan and tomorrow brings the realities of life and they lose the goal or dream to the realities of getting up and earning a dollar for bread. A great line from a favorite band of mine. "...you took my dreams from me... No, I didn't my love I put them in a box right next to my own..." A person doesn't have to love music to see the truth and tragedy in that line. If you are lucky you get a few of your little dreams.
If you're really unlucky and work like a bastard, you get a few of the big ones.
I am going to write this about me. But, not to brag or boast about me. I write this as a mirror. Look at the words, read them for how they touch you, and make you reflect. Take from that reflection what you like, but please share in the spirit of love and compassion that pushed me to write it.
My Grandfather was a soldier in WW1 and my Father in WW2 (Navy intelligence). So, I wanted to be as well. It was a dream and a goal. I was an extroverted, type A personality person and I reached that goal.
I returned to civilian life still and extroverted person but one that had difficulty controlling aspects of their personality. Crowds bothered me, and loud sounds caused flinch reactions. They call it hyper vigilance and it is a pretty good indication you have PTSD. Because of my unique psychological make up the usual tools used to treat PTSD were not going to be effective. I was lucky enough to be referred to one of the best and ground breaking psychologist on the subject. I was lucky he went with an alternative approach rather than the big pharma medicate and forget. After reaching that goal I had another. To work in Law enforcement.
I enjoyed that goal for many years, and managed to come to terms with how my PTSD effected me and limit how it affected others in my life. It was a ton of hard work. Alternative fixes are slow but more permanent than traditional cures. It also gave me a unique insight into the day to day interactions I had with the rather unusual rouges gallery my career brought me in touch with. It made it easy to be part of the YARC here on the forum. Then I wanted to write a book.
I took writing in school to fill out a full time semester and never thought I would use it past report writing. It took me two years of writing four hours a day to finish the manuscript and then another year of editing. Unfortunately the help available for writers is not like the help we have here. Or at least it wasn't when I finished Grey Redemption. It got accepted and I was overjoyed and then it got demands for changes and I worked at those with a company editor. Then I was asked to change US Navy to African Navy and that got into a political drama that resulted in a book going to press that I wasn't proud of. Regardless, it became popular with a segment of society, and ended up in the various sandboxes in the world. I got a following and was amazed when my Twitter followers numbered over 35 thousand. I was invited to the London Book Fair and asked to speak. I was no longer Scott. I had achieved my goal and I was the Scott D. Covey writer who left the naughty sexy bits in a military/espionage thriller. I flew to London, stayed at the Savoy, received death threats for disclosing secrets in the secret world of private armies. I sat and signed books longer than I had ever found myself sitting in a classroom. I was popular and people wanted moments of my time and I hated it. It wasn't who I was. I was Scott. The only THE in my family was my cat The Piker. I didn't like the book, I wasn't proud of it. It had far too many errors in spelling and grammar. I had been screwed by my first publisher and dumped into a cue with another house best known for taking advantage of their clients. But like the Rocky Horror Picture Show it became liked despite being what it was. People didn't care, they just wanted to hear me talk about it, the process, the idea, why I broke the no sex rule... It was my goal and dream and I never thought about what came next. I never saw the stress this monster would grow into and create.
I went to parties in New York City and drank a little too much as I had a handler (they called him an assistant) to whisper the names of the people that approached. I was featured in the NYC Book Fair as well. My goal was complete I had arrived, and I was miserable.
So I changed, I got people to do the things that created the most stress. I like control and I hate trusting others with things that represent me. But I knew I couldn't become the person that this success needed me to be. Control is an illusion I told myself, over and over, to try and believe it. I changed just enough to survive and not look like a flake. No one believes you when you say you don't like the attention. You make money off the attention, it drives sales. A friend once said a business that is too busy is led by an idiot. But, "I was Scott and not a business," I replied. "Yup, see run by an idiot!"
I wanted to run away and an opportunity presented itself, allowing just that. I jumped too quickly at it. Buddha teaches to never make a decision when you are Happy, Angry, or Depressed. I failed to listen. I also had websites, and blogs to keep up and while others did the day to day I had to do the content. The person that handles my FB author page thought a poll would be good to see if fans wanted a prequel or a sequel. The numbers of followers had dropped and he wanted, it was his job, to get them back up. Not that I did. No control remember? Well, the poll came back with a sequel. I hadn't asked the question, a person doing his job had and now I had to write a second book. I wrote Redemption's Bullet priced it in the basement and published it myself. To say thanks for looking past the mistakes in the first one and finished the series in my mind. I was, and am, proud of that book. I think it tells a great story from a different angle, and the writting is tight. Just so this doesn't get construed as a sales pitch and not an attempt to help someone suffering from success, it is available on torrent sites and I promise I won't sue you, and it is too small for Amazon to notice. Read it for free. Some still want more, but I think my days of writing are done. It just simply became more of a monster than I could handle. Not enough of a monster to pay people to handle it for me and I couldn't adapt to become that person.
So there is your mirror, Sir. I have reached out today as you did years ago. Different situations, different people but with the same emotion, Love.