VanKitten
Well-known member
Well, a lot has happened since I posted a while back.
I found a place where the RV could stay, and guys to continue working on it for me. Basically, do all the stuff to make it road worthy, and maybe a bit of the extra stuff I would have to pay for anyway. I know that is a big risk, but it was killing me to lose it after I had waged such a long search and felt it was pretty close to the best buy/situation I could have found.
So, I left it in NC and pulled up stakes to high-tail it to Colorado. What I found was much worse than expected. Not only is my Mom dealing with recovery and rehab to regain what she lost....but come to find out my Dad is worse than she is! He has dementia with paranoia. She was his care giver all these years so no one knew.
I have two dependent seniors. Neither of which can function without near constant care.
Getting the POA was a major issue. Please folks..if you haven't done it...get a POA done and signed. My parents did..BUT...they named each other! Fat lot of good that did in this circumstance. The huge cost involved with getting a court to legally declare either incompetent exceeds the available money to do it.
I have been dealing with insurance, Medicare, hospitals, volunteer organizations, etc. etc. etc. my days are filled just putting out fires. I feel like I am not getting anything done.
I did dispute the discharge plan for my Mom...got the hospital to agree to back off till Aug 1st.
Meanwhile, back in NC...I have a guy working on the RV who is gung-ho. He is easily able to outrun my budget on me. Have to pay attention to him almost daily to keep control of the project. I would like to be able to fly back there in the spring and drive it here. I don't really think it can be ready before January...and I just don't drive the mountains in snow and ice. Maybe I will get a couple extra things done if it is "ready" for me to take over the work before I can get there.
I am having a tough time right now. My efforts are scattered across so many issues and too many people. Doing all this alone is really hard. I'd take time for me, but there isn't any. Once Mom is home, she cannot be left unattended at any time. She cannot swallow liquids and she doesn't remember she cannot swallow liquids. My Dad cannot be counted on for any help...he needs an attendant himself.
I found a place where the RV could stay, and guys to continue working on it for me. Basically, do all the stuff to make it road worthy, and maybe a bit of the extra stuff I would have to pay for anyway. I know that is a big risk, but it was killing me to lose it after I had waged such a long search and felt it was pretty close to the best buy/situation I could have found.
So, I left it in NC and pulled up stakes to high-tail it to Colorado. What I found was much worse than expected. Not only is my Mom dealing with recovery and rehab to regain what she lost....but come to find out my Dad is worse than she is! He has dementia with paranoia. She was his care giver all these years so no one knew.
I have two dependent seniors. Neither of which can function without near constant care.
Getting the POA was a major issue. Please folks..if you haven't done it...get a POA done and signed. My parents did..BUT...they named each other! Fat lot of good that did in this circumstance. The huge cost involved with getting a court to legally declare either incompetent exceeds the available money to do it.
I have been dealing with insurance, Medicare, hospitals, volunteer organizations, etc. etc. etc. my days are filled just putting out fires. I feel like I am not getting anything done.
I did dispute the discharge plan for my Mom...got the hospital to agree to back off till Aug 1st.
Meanwhile, back in NC...I have a guy working on the RV who is gung-ho. He is easily able to outrun my budget on me. Have to pay attention to him almost daily to keep control of the project. I would like to be able to fly back there in the spring and drive it here. I don't really think it can be ready before January...and I just don't drive the mountains in snow and ice. Maybe I will get a couple extra things done if it is "ready" for me to take over the work before I can get there.
I am having a tough time right now. My efforts are scattered across so many issues and too many people. Doing all this alone is really hard. I'd take time for me, but there isn't any. Once Mom is home, she cannot be left unattended at any time. She cannot swallow liquids and she doesn't remember she cannot swallow liquids. My Dad cannot be counted on for any help...he needs an attendant himself.
