Please Help?

[Roc]

Never mind. <br><br><br>

 

[super duty]

Hey roc,

I see people replied to your original concerns. If you still have more questions, keep asking. Check out the posts under cars, and vans. Let us know more about you and we can give our opinions on what kind of vehicle is best for you. Dont gibe up on the ppl here, they'd love to help.

 

[VanLifeCrisis]

*shrug*&nbsp; Maybe no one here knew the answer to your question.&nbsp; I think the 11 or so replies to your previous post would suggest a willingness to be helpful to you though.<br><br>Your 3 posts doesn't exactly suggest you are contributing much to us either.

 

[rvwandering]

&nbsp;What's been going on in your life since last June? Have you moved forward with your plans? Sometimes it takes awhile to get everything settled to the point where you can get a van or RV and get on the road. Don't give up too easily. Some of the forum members have been planning, working and searching for their perfect vehicle for a couple years or more. Read over everything and ask more questions. Good luck!

 

[bk2valve]

Hi Roc, I have no idea of what specifically you are asking? How about a new post on what that is....in reading your other posts it still is not clear to me what exactly it is you want from us?<br>Bri

 

[Kevin H]

Hi Roc - I wrote a reply and mistakenly posted it to your original post. &nbsp;Oops!<br><br>-- &nbsp;Kevin

 

[Lifemagician]

As already mentioned above, you need to tell people what exact help you need / want.&nbsp;&nbsp; If it doesn't come out quite right, don't worry, just post again, and clarify.&nbsp; No one here is a mind reader.<br><br>Remember, the only stupid question, is the question you did not ask. <br><br id="tinymce" class="mceContentBody ">Lifey

 

[Roc]

Sorry, all. <br><br>I pulled my post because I felt like I was asking too much - especially from strangers.<br><br>I'm not a contributing member because I have nothing to contribute yet.<br><br>I've started the process of selling things off, but it's not been going as well as I had hoped. I had friends that agreed to help me with selling some things, but they ended up backing out. I've pretty much lost all my friends over this decision.<br><br>I'm not physically able to move some of the furniture up from the basement or down from the second floor (heavy, antique cherry wood), but that's not my biggest problem.<br><br>I have so many questions - I feel like I need to TALK to someone with experience who might be able to guide me through some of my problems with breaking free, and helping me getting started. I need to get a move on ASAP.<br><br>I've left out a lot, but I in my original post, I was basically asking for an experienced mentor.<br><br>Like I said, I've lost all my friends over this, and I have no family - so I have no one to ask for advice.<br><br>Again, I apologize for pulling my post. I'm just mad about the way things have turned out, and disillusioned with my so-called friends.<br><br><br>

 

[super duty]

I feel ya! It can sometimes be easy to become disilusuioned especially by friends. Many people cant say no when they really dont want to help. So many have fear around anything like "help me move". I suggest craigslist, like if you are selling couches in basement, say "must move yourself"

I have a lot to do before I am ready, I am being positive because it is what i want. It sounds like you are haing to live in a vehicle, not want. If so, perhaps change your perspective. Find a reason that you WANT to do it, then its much easier.

Hope Ive helped today, one day at a time!

Guy

 

[cyndi]

Roc, I have just recently moved out of my house and due to some physical issues required A LOT of help from friends. Cooking meals and buying pizza and making my specialty treats kept them coming back. Some of my friends are pretty broke and I didn't mind giving them a few dollars, too, Most refused money but sometimes I would find a way to sneak it to them. Hopefully, they'll find it later and think it was money they'd lost.<br><br>Also,&nbsp;advertise&nbsp;on craigslist or ebay classifieds. Who ever buys the item can move it.<br><br>You're asking people to email you if they think they can help. It should be you putting forth the effort emailing (or private messaging) As you read posts and come across issues similar to yours, email or privately message that person with your question.<br><br>Our little community here is one of the most generous and helpful I have ever seen.

 

[Lifemagician]

Our little community here is one of the most generous and helpful I have ever seen.

<br>I'll second that, Cyndi.<br><br>Lifey

 

[Seraphim]

You're not asking too much - this is the designed purpose of this forum. It might be difficult to find one mentor, as everyone has different experiences, but as you see tasks or obstacles approaching, get on here and ask: you'll find you have a group,of mentors. One may assist with one area, while someone else has experience with another. So ask each question you have.
Sorry I missed your original post.

 

[bk2valve]

Hi Roc, I agree with what the last posters are saying. You have to reach out to get help. I looked at your profile and it doesn't show anything about who you are, where you are, etc. I don't know you at all and yet you seem to think I or we can help in some way. And I don't really know in what way.<br><br>I am older than most on here yet I get help constantly...mentorship even... by reading what people post and applying it to my life it it fits or asking for more info, etc. Some stuff I just let pass because it isn't helpful in any way that I can see. Some times I PM the person since I want or need more info. I have modeled my vehicle set up due to someone's vehicle I have seen or at least used some of their ideas. I must say I pretty much limit what I pay much attention to on here to physical and/or mechanical stuff. <br><br>I know it is a bit difficult in some ways to find much personal stuff on here since many of us are afraid of exposing that stuff....so it is hard to even find out whether someone is male or female, where in the world they live, etc., age, etc. <br><br>But I find that if I am more forthcoming, I have people reach out and even come and visit on their way through my town, even just for coffee at a local coffeehouse and then some stay a night or two, but I have to do the reaching out first. I have to let people now where I am, who I am and what I am all about before they will reach back.<br><br>As far as life advice...this may not be the place to get it. Maybe a counselor or therapist might be the way to go. It sounds to me like you may have a lot of confusion and indecision going on and I am not sure there are people here who can help much with that...in other words if I need help with a medical problem, I am sure not going to ask for help here about it, I am going to go to a doctor.&nbsp; Same with help about legal issues...a lawyer. Help about financial issues...a banker or financial advisor. If I need help with a mental problem ...a therapist or counselor. Spiritual guidance....someone in my particular spiritual discipline. You get it I am sure.<br><br>As far as friends on here, I have to be the friend first. Then maybe someone will want to develop that relationship.<br><br>All that said, there needs to be some caution, even on here where I have always felt safe. I have met some folks who creeped me out and I just let them go on their way. As soon as I saw a couple of guns at the RTR, one being worn, I left the site...I don't want to&nbsp; hang with people who feel guns are a solution to anything. That is a decision for me and my own path through life.&nbsp; But I get to choose these things...and I do...fully and in the moment.<br><br>As far as helping you decide if a mobile life is for you or not or how to go about it....I have no idea at all what to say...I didn't consciously choose much of that myself...I try to stay put and get restless as all get-out and then need to do some road tripping.... I have lived mobile much of my life and don't find the need to define myself by that any more....<br><br>I do what I feel like in the morning and if it is stay put, I do that, if it is go, I do that....my entire life has been like that and somehow through all that, I have a stable relationship with a partner and a home that is paid for and is my base station and am called ManyWheelsKemsley because of guess what? Many wheels....in my fleet. I love vehicles of all kinds and made a living by wrenching and driving. I started life on the road at three years old with Mom and Sis and the cross country train...I have never much stopped for long....<br><br>How could I possibly help someone who at some point in their life thinks that being mobile will change things for them...I can't relate to that at all. For me it is inbred...not something I think is cool or a whim. Many of my friends are content to be in one place including my siblings who didn't have the experiences I did growing up...they are much older and much younger...<br><br>I am totally alone in this because of my experiences except for my bride who is very much the same....go figger. She grew up on the road and has never stopped for long...4 years in one job in one place is her record....we moved thirteen times in 28 years....Plus we have traveled the world and continue to. We are now moving her to the 13th place and while she has worked for nearly 30 years in the same trade, it has been in many different places, agencies and freelance.<br><br>I say to grab your life and do what comes along every morning. It may not be to live mobile. It may. Every moment that slips by is never to be regained. Anything you do is just that....what you do...anything you don't do is just that, what you don't do. You are in charge...at least in charge of the decisions....whatever you believe about the universe is the other part.<br><br>In my case it is the Creator and that is hugely important to me....I also call it the Tao. If I flow with it, life goes smoothly. If I resist it, life sux and is tough. Like being in a river with a strong current. I can cling to a rock or the shore and fight for what I believe at the moment and life is a struggle or I can let go and turn on my back with my feet downstream and watch the heavens as it carries me along, around the rocks and shoals and presents me with what? Everything! Your choice.<br><br>Peace,<br>Bri