Are most Vehicle Dwellers Single

[rm.w/aview]

 Are most of you folks on here living as a single? 

Al

To answer this question & contribute to the poll, not single. To answer the question presented in the title, based on what I've seen, vehicle dwellers seem to be a cross section of our society. A core sample from each would be nearly identical.

 

[SoulRaven]

I am wondering if there is a polling plug-in for this forum? Not sure what base website platform you are using Bob, but it may be better to enable people to use an actual poll if they just want numbers.  You could get some pretty interesting demographic data out of it as well which could be used for marketing the eyeballs you have to advertisers.

As for the questions, I am single and monogamous. Although I would love to find a traveling companion to fall in love with, at this time in my life, I am doing things the way I want to.   If it happens, it happens.  If not, I'm okay with that too. Aaaand...my picker is broken, so best not to use it until I fix it.

Also, not mainstream - whatever that means.  An eccentric to be sure but not schizoid or schizotypal.  Adaptable, capable, as rational as possible, George Carlin-type-spiritual (Big Woa).  I just don't buy into the things that most people think makes their lives meaningful.  Part of the reason I am doing this is to find meaning that makes sense for me and that might mean no distractions for now.

 

[BC Guy]

After you open "Post Thread", at the bottom you will see a check box for "I want to post a poll".

 

[user 423]

...my picker is broken, so best not to use it until I fix it.

A problem for many of us, I'm sure. And I'm hoping you didn't make a typo.

 

[SoulRaven]

After you open "Post Thread", at the bottom you will see a check box for "I want to post a poll".

Ah!!! Thanks! Could be useful!

 

[SoulRaven]

A problem for many of us, I'm sure.  And I'm hoping you didn't make a typo.

Heh! Nope. I don't have a...typo. :-D

 

[SoulRaven]

I am wondering if there is a polling plug-in for this forum?

Yes there is, when you are the OP .  

UPDATE: So then I go and answer a question already answered!  DUH. 
This is a pretty old topic, you may wish to start another.  Or just read what others have already posted.  Those that feel like adding something to that topic stopped in April.  

But a lot of people have joined since then, so maybe more of them will want to chime in. 

Based on my experience, this is a lousy lifestyle for meeting a romantic interest.  On the other hand, I deliberately choose to limit my interactions, and prefer my privacy.  I'm a "fringe-dweller" among other fringe-dwellers.  I kind of like it that way.  YMMV. 

Regards, 

Pat

 

[John61CT]

Yes, unless you're otherwise very attractive to your target profile, living in a van is not an "added attraction" for most.

And I bet only relationships very solid from the outset, between very relaxed tolerant people, will flourish with the added stress.

Two separate vans, coordinated separate routes and meetups would work much better for me personally, unless I had a partner who enjoyed submitting to "my way or the highway" most of the time, I'm just too much a control freak in my old age.

 

[DeWALT12]

I'm pretty sure i'll be single for the rest of my life, and not by choice, At 30 i'm too old to find love.

 

[user 423]

I'm pretty sure i'll be single for the rest of my life, and not by choice, At 30 i'm too old to find love.

Ever hear of self-fulfilling prophecy?

 

[highdesertranger]

you are never to "old". highdesertranger

 

[DuneElliot]

I'm pretty sure i'll be single for the rest of my life, and not by choice, At 30 i'm too old to find love.

With that attitude you will be...no girl is going to find a lack of confidence attractive. I'm 38 and absolutely believe I will find love in my life (actually hoping it is currently in the works). My mom didn't meet her current partner and fall in love until she was 56.

 

[deadwood]

I think the bigger hurdle to living in a van and having a relationship is more the difference in van lifestyle. Do you live in your van/rv and travel all the time or do you live in your van but stay in one place full time? For those that travel all the time it would be no different then if you had a house but were never home. It would be hard to maintain a relationship unless that person traveled with you.

For me I full time in the van but live in one city to work. I think of the van more as my little apartment. I can still meet people. Go out with friends from work. Do happy hour and socialize. It's not much different then when I did live in a really small apartment. It's just not as easy to bring someone home to "the van".

My life isn't that much different then when I was in an apartment except that I get out a lot more. Because I don't want to sit around in the van I find I make a lot more effort to keep in touch with friends that I might have only seen once in a while. I'm always looking for new things to do in my free time to keep me out of the van. I joined a gym (for the showers) but now I am working out four days a week as well. I used to hike once in a while but now I find I'm doing it a few times a week but now I try to call someone to hike with me so I'm meeting my friends even more often.

In either case weather you travel or stay in one place there is no reason to not leave yourself open to meeting new people and seeing where things will go. I'm sure I might start dating someone and that a lot of people just can't understand this lifestyle. But if that happens then it happens. But I might just as easily meet someone that thinks it's totally cool and might just want to go on a few trips here and there.

 

[GypsySpirit]

It sounds to me like dudes who are just pissed off that they can't get laid.  

Now that made me laugh!  Thanks!

 

[WalkaboutTed]

From Deadwood:

"I think the bigger hurdle to living in a van and having a relationship is more the difference in van lifestyle. Do you live in your van/rv and travel all the time or do you live in your van but stay in one place full time? For those that travel all the time it would be no different then if you had a house but were never home. It would be hard to maintain a relationship unless that person traveled with you"

All it took was one long weekend together with my husband in the van we were going to live together, to decide that the traveling that way just Wasn't.Going.To.Work.  Between that and our different styles of traveling, we came to the conclusion that we must travel separately and meet up as desired.  We've always spent months apart most years (21+), seperate vacations and such.  So this won't be much different, except now, instead of one leaver and the other a leavee, we'll both be leavers.  

So, Hubby has his own van now and is doing his own build. Works for us.  Would this qualify as quasi-single?

 

[highdesertranger]

ah, kissing vans. highdesertranger