Are most Vehicle Dwellers Single

[bullfrog]

I used to drive a short bus. Lot of things have already been done in the short bus by the time it becomes a camper.

 

[Florida boondocker]

Just for the record ...
i am single, house broken, cook ( only on grill ) , no baggage - drama free ,
love life & respect others choices
free spirit, hard worker, small business owner, believe in God but not a cult follower
honest to a fault, enjoy life as one should and single

takes a little to get close to me but then i have your back till death
have solid heart, don't play game but love life

 

[Iggy]

I'm 55, single, been thru some real disasters of relationships, and have come to the conclusion that I'm not compatible with anyone. I still sometimes make feeble attempts at romance, just like I occasionally buy a lottery ticket (when it reaches $2-300 million). With the same amount of luck. Being a vandweller with nothing but lint in my pockets virtually guarantees a life of solitude. But I'm content and enjoy this life.

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[VanGrrl57]

I am also single and I'm fine with that.

I was fortunate to have married two wonderful men who gave me three terrific kids. My first two are from my first husband and my youngest is from my second husband. Believe it or not, I was widowed not once but twice.    I also consider myself most fortunate to have not had to go through what some of my friends have had to deal with and I am referring to both male and female friends that have been through Hell and back.

With all this being said, I don't rule out another relationship.   If it happens, it happens, and if it doesn't, that's okay, too.


VanGrrl57

 

[mayble]

I have wondered how hard it's going to be to meet someone in this lifestyle with not being in one place long enough to form long-term friendships/relationships.

It doesn't take long following this forum to see that long-term friendships/relationships ABOUND!  You can't help but meet scores of like-minded people while out and about, certainly far more than anyone in a traditional S&B, 9-5 lifestyle who only see the same co-workers and neighbors every single day.

 

[slynne]

I am single and haven't been in a serious relationship in 20 years. I am like others and don't rule out the possibility but I don't devote any energy to it anymore. I don't wear makeup and I don't try to lose weight. I also dress kind of like a dork. I also don't tone down things like my argumentative nature or my intelligence. It really is for the best though because if I thought a man was only interested in me for my looks and not for my argumentative nature and intelligence, I would feel really insecure and likely would become the kind of woman men so often accuse of "drama" Better to be single. Plus the freedom of it is pretty awesome.

I have noticed that while most of my friends think my idea to live in a van is nuts, there are one or two who are married who say things like "Oh you are sooooo lucky to be single, my husband/wife would never go for such an idea. *sigh*" There is truth in the notion that single people are more free to enter into this kind of lifestyle just because it is only one person's dream that needs to be considered. However, the only people I know in real life who have actually adopted a full time RV lifestyle are a couple who bought a nice class A and found a way to work on the road because they shared the same dream. So that happens too

 

[Ballenxj]

Apparently my taste in women has been wrong all these years, and I have paid dearly for it.  Anymore I don't even try, not worth it.
Well meaning friends have been busy trying to set me up with this woman, or another. I simply reply No Thanks, not going there again.
As an aside, I have found videos on youtube that may sound crazy, but I totally understand the point of view now.
For the curious, go to youtube and type MGTOW in the search box. You will get an ear full! Warning, some of those videos are not for sensitive people.

 

[ArtW]

The MGTOW vids will definitely trigger some folks, not the sort of talk most people are used to

 

[Gary68]

just the thought of the morning farts from two people in a van keeps me single

 

[ArtW]

hahahaha!Garry you are too much

 

[BradKW]

 

[ArtW]

NICE HAHAHA!
also, and? it's a Mercedes, and it's a home, and he owns it

 

[Canine]

Hi Al,
I just joined WIN last night.   : Singles RV club, looks fun.

 

[Gunny]

Single for quite a few years, usually happily so. Companionship comes at a price and at this point in my life I don't see changing.

Rob

 

[eDJ_]

Yeah the MGTOW item is a growing thing.  It isn't a movement as some suspect,  but an attitude men have aligned with to distance themselves from issues that foil them with so many "types" of women today.   It doesn't mean that they are all "Haters",  as they aren't.  

But what they are leaning to do is protect themselves from the parasitic nature a lot of women have maintained and misguidedly defended by calling it Feminism.  They believe Chivalry is mostly dead and attribute that to Feminism. 

But on the issue of "haters",  the emotion of hate is one thing and it's bad,   but the emotion of indifference may be far worse.  A lot of MGTOW men speak of going "Ghost" today which is to say that they try to make themselves invisible to women.   As men they don't exist to be rescuers, beast of burden, ATM's, substitutes for a  girlfriend,  or an emotional napkin for a woman to boo hoo all over.   These guys simply go their own way single and refuse to be "Mr good for Right now".  Actually a lot of it sounds like what women were saying of men in the early days of Feminism.

Since my getting on the Internet I've been watching trends.   I've noticed in the late 90's so many young girls were saying,  "My mothers Feminism has ruined guys for me today".   it seems this has come to a "school of thought" with many men today and even some women are supporting it (called Honey Badgers). 

I'm sure this is much of the intrigue for men to get a Van or some form of vehicle that they can live in while clearing their mind and purging their emotions.

One of the more notable spokes people on this Youtube circuit is Sandman.  If you wish to view his videos.

 

[johnny b]

just the thought of the morning farts from two people in a van keeps me single

just gotta find someone who can laugh at the humor of a 'dutch oven' and can give as well as receive....aka... true love.  

 

[slynne]

MGTOW seems pretty diverse to me. At one extreme you have guys who straight up hate women. Then, there are also just really nice dudes who have been unlucky in love and who have decided not to put too much effort into things. I admit that I stop listening when a man starts complaining that feminism has ruined women though because WTF does *that* mean?!? Are they angry that women have economic independence and thus don't have to take their crap? I am reminded of a Dave Chapelle joke:

Do you know how much money you have to have to tell a girl to 'shut the **** up'?

I have "Quiet please" money at best. I'd have to take a loan out for 'shut the **** up.'

"Shut the **** up" that's Jay Z money....and Beyonce got 'Nooooo you shut the **** up' money.

 

[lenny flank]

MGTOW seems pretty diverse to me. 

It sounds to me like dudes who are just pissed off that they can't get laid.  

 

[DuneElliot]

Yeah the MGTOW item is a growing thing.  It isn't a movement as some suspect,  but an attitude men have aligned with to distance themselves from issues that foil them with so many "types" of women today.   It doesn't mean that they are all "Haters",  as they aren't.  

But what they are leaning to do is protect themselves from the parasitic nature a lot of women have maintained and misguidedly defended by calling it Feminism.  They believe Chivalry is mostly dead and attribute that to Feminism. 

But on the issue of "haters",  the emotion of hate is one thing and it's bad,   but the emotion of indifference may be far worse.  A lot of MGTOW men speak of going "Ghost" today which is to say that they try to make themselves invisible to women.   As men they don't exist to be rescuers, beast of burden, ATM's, substitutes for a  girlfriend,  or an emotional napkin for a woman to boo hoo all over.   These guys simply go their own way single and refuse to be "Mr good for Right now".  Actually a lot of it sounds like what women were saying of men in the early days of Feminism.

Since my getting on the Internet I've been watching trends.   I've noticed in the late 90's so many young girls were saying,  "My mothers Feminism has ruined guys for me today".   it seems this has come to a "school of thought" with many men today and even some women are supporting it (called Honey Badgers). 

I'm sure this is much of the intrigue for men to get a Van or some form of vehicle that they can live in while clearing their mind and purging their emotions.

One of the more notable spokes people on this Youtube circuit is Sandman.  If you wish to view his videos.

Very well said. True feminism was supposed to be about equality. Modern feminism has ruined relationships and beaten men, as a broad gender, into worthlessness. I honestly don't blame a lot of men for going that way with what so many women have done, but it makes it that much harder for those of us who genuinely want a full-filling mutually-respectful relationship and life partner. After being trampled on so many times in my life by friends and romantic partners somehow I still have the belief and positivity that I will find someone, eventually....although at this rate that might be when I'm 90  :-/

 

[lenny flank]

I'm sure this is much of the intrigue for men to get a Van or some form of vehicle that they can live in while clearing their mind and purging their emotions.

I am pretty convinced that much of the vandwelling community is based on emotional and political ideology--ranging from the "black helicopters are gonna invade" crowd to the "save Mother Earth" crowd. Of course every emotion-based ideological group has its cranks and loony fringe, but it does seem as though the van-dwelling community has more than its share, from both ends of the spectrum. I suspect it's just one of many reasons why those outside the community view us as, frankly, nutty.

(Which makes it the irony of all ironies that "political talk" is not allowed here----since nearly all of us are walking talking acts of politics.)

Me, I just laugh at it all.