Women Only: Downsizing Tears

[RoadtripsAndCampfires]

This has been a hard week in a lot of ways but I thought some of you could appreciate this.  We are having a garage sale very soon.  I decoded that I will get rid of two bedroom pieces of furniture for 2 reasons:

1)  I'm going to have to anyway if I eventually take off
2) I've decided I don't want to own anything I can't physically carry myself and these two pieces don't qualify.

The problem I've been dealing with:

1) I really like the pieces and they make my room look good.  Our take off date is anywhere from 1 to 2 years.
2) They belonged to my mother (who has been gone awhile now).  Thus the tears part.

So ... I had my little cry spell and let myself get good and sad yesterday

Today hubby and I moved the pieces into the garage.

I think it'll be like everything else I've gotten rid of - at first I really really miss it and then I don't even think about it.  The dogs weren't sure what was going on with that room!  So I'm living out of soft zippered bags now.  Better than hubby - he's got boxes as I haven't yet ordered his duffle bags  (well, my bags just got here a few days ago and I wasn't sure how many to order.  At this point I am wondering if I should get the bunk house trailer and just put the bags on the top bunk and use the cupboards for my other stuff.  Ah, who knows, I've been trailer shoping for 4 years and still haven't picked one.

Christine

 

[Blanch]

It is a process. There were things I just couldn't get rid of when I launched. I got a storage unit. Now, more than a year later, and I want to ditch the storage unit and only own what I can carry. I have not visited my stuff in over six months......

This process takes time and happens in stages. I remember, at my final yard sale, giving away the things that hadn't sold. It was hard.

Change is never easy. Tears are part of the process.


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[RoadtripsAndCampfires]

I am determined to not have a storage unit which is the little nudge that keeps me letting things go that are hard. I had a hard time giving up two dolls that I had so I took their photo. Really, once they were gone it was alright. I think I have a much harder time thinking about giving up sentimental things then I do actually giving them up!

The hardest chore is saving the photos, etc. I have gathered all the material i would like to scan and boy, I've got my winter project defined! I am almost done with the upstairs - purging everything that will not go except for a small amount of stuff to keep till almost ready to take off (like the TV, couch a few kitchen items).

One thing I am doing is appreciating the space in the house. I am well aware of the smallness I will be moving in to so I decided to enjoy sitting on the couch and being grateful I can stretch out and walk room to room, etc. I think it'll be a long time before I move back into a house once we take off. Every bath is precious to me now (but I am trying to figure out if I can fit a horse trough (spelling?) in the back of the pickup with the other stuff I plan on carrying there LOL.

Christine

 

[Queen]

I'm glad you have time to go through the process, in the end it should help immensely. If you'll have the house a while longer, maybe put the items you are desperate to keep in a room by themselves (like a trail run storage room), maybe once they've been out of sight a while, getting rid of them will be easier.

 

[michele0203]

2) I've decided I don't want to own anything I can't physically carry myself and these two pieces don't qualify.

The problem I've been dealing with:


2) They belonged to my mother (who has been gone awhile now).  Thus the tears part.

So ... I had my little cry spell and let myself get good and sad yesterday

I think it'll be like everything else I've gotten rid of - at first I really really miss it and then I don't even think about it.

Christine

I can really relate to all of this!!!

 

[RoadtripsAndCampfires]

No More Tears

So, last night I walked into the clean bedroom without dressers and smiled. It didn't matter. My bed was in the center of the room and it looks awesome. I sure got over that quickly. Which is an important point. If you think you are going to have a serious problem letting go just move it and see how you deal with it.

Christine

 

[RoadtripsAndCampfires]

I'm glad you have time to go through the process, in the end it should help immensely.  If you'll have the house a while longer, maybe put the items you are desperate to keep in a room by themselves (like a trail run storage room), maybe once they've been out of sight a while, getting rid of them will be easier.

I'm on about year 10 of the process LOL.  BUT now it's the stuff that counts so yeah, glad I have the time.  And I did what you are suggesting, I put them in the garage with the rest of the garage sale stuff.  Another thing that helps is the idea of not wanting a lot of stuff to deal with that last month.  I am trying to not be tired when we take off, that always happens at vacation time, clean the house and tired driving off.

Christine

 

[Nissi]

At this point I am wondering if I should get the bunk house trailer and just put the bags on the top bunk and use the cupboards for my other stuff. 

Christine

I am with you on the bunkhouse idea. Have thought this would be a great area for things the trailer makers
don't allow for...
We all have some gear we have to find room for...
could be winter "stuff", beach balls or ...   

 

[WalkaboutTed]

We have a 10'x15' unit. Primarily to store #4's furniture until he gets his own place. If it was just "regular" furniture, it wouldn't be worth it, but he's keeping a ton of teak furniture that he could never afford to buy new.

He's in his junior year in an engineering program, so I figure it will be for only a year or two. Like many others, the only thing precious to me are photographs. Eventually I'll get a scanner and finish them up.

Now that it's me AND the dog, which I didn't expect to get, I may want an 18' trailer. Between that and the van, I would have plenty of room. Nice thing about a trailer and the van, I would have a "guest room". Now if I could only get one of my four sons to have a kid. I guess I was too effective on stressing the why's and wherefores of birth control. I was an L&D nurse and had a running dialog with them about accidental pregnancies.
Ted

 

[RoadtripsAndCampfires]

4 kids - awesome.  I only have one and she doesn't want almost anything I have.  

Christine