Unexpected Relationship Change led to Nomad Life

[Cammalu]

Nature lover don’t send those roses. Just don’t

 

[JeanInaBox]

I agree.


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[Ravella and X]

NL, take the money you wold have spent on those roses and treat yourself to something extravagant. Something you'd not normally buy for yourself. Be good to you, please

 

[travelaround]

Nature Lover... my heart goes out to you. It has been a long time since my divorce but at the time it devastated me. I never expected to be a divorced person, but he quickly moved on to someone else while I stayed single for a long time. I also think the money for roses would be better spent in another way. Maybe donate to a good cause. There are a lot of poor and needy people in the world. You could send her a card saying that the rose money was spent to help the local soup kitchen for the homeless, or something like that.

 

[nature lover]

Thanks all for the concern and advice. I sent her a happy birthday email with a picture of wildflowers. At least part of the money saved will go to my addiction. The Amish bakeshop lady down the road makes the best homemade molasses cookies in the world and she always gives me a free cup of coffee to go with it. We all have our addictions don’t we?

 

[Sofisintown]

Nature Lover, I have never been in a room with 1000 people where I was the only divorced one.
Where on earth do you hang out?
I have been in many a room, where I was part of the vast majority of divorced folk, and I only have one (1) childhood friend that is still married to the man she married 42 years ago. All my close relatives are divorced and from the extended family, about half of them. Of the non- divorced ones, many have never been married.
I hadn't realized how extended the situation is, until I read your post and took a count.

Bad marriages happen a lot, and for the last several decades, people decide to part company instead of suffering with one another.
Let go of the idea that she will come back, you are only torturing yourself, and maybe you will eventually find a companion to share the beautiful (and the less so) days with.
Cheers!

 

[vanbrat]

Sounds like you are getting good advice from everyone and I just want to add my 2 cents. And I know that is all it is worth.

So you say how you don't go to your old church and you miss it. Please go find one you feel welcome at. I am not a church going person. Don't ever feel the need. God knows what is in my heart and I know where I am closest to him is not a building. But if that is something you miss keep looking, you will find one that is inclusive even if you have 'sinned' not that I am saying you have. And not, that as I remember, God ever expects us to never 'sin'. He expects us to forgive and understand. Not my strong suit. Anyway what I am saying is if that is something you are missing there are plenty of good churches out there and one of them will be right for you.

As I said I am not a 'church' person, but I know a lot of folks get comfort from that. And from what I understand that is one of the things that they are supposed to give -- freely.

OK enough, that is more religious talk then anyone has ever heard from me. EVER. I hope you make it through your tough times if for no other reason then it feels soooo goood when it is over.