"Trauma Anyone?" Thread Resurrected

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Omg. This is exactly where I am right now. My Mom died last fall...I feel the need to clean everything out and just take off. My husband and I have an rv. I think maybe we could take a long trip this summer, but I have a job so not sure how that will go. But, I really think I am in this same spot you are describing.
 
It was a good thread, lots of people shared things that were, no doubt, painful for them. So yeah, a new thread is a good idea, thanks for starting it ERLH.

My traumas are personal and not meant for public airing, but I can say the result of them is me being extremely independant but also being able to form a deep connection if I feel I can trust someone, it's rare but it does happen.
 
Please hold that thought. I will see what I can do to bring back posts from that thread that were not deleted. If I can, I will merge those posts with this thread. If I can't, I'll post here to let you know.
 
Txjaybird said:
So what happened to the "Trauma" thread?

Jewellann

The person that started it requested that all of their posts be deleted. 
I don't understand it either, but that is why admins deleted the thread.
 
I was able to merge the posts that were not deleted from the forum when the thread, begun by a now-unregistered member, was removed*. Unfortunately, any "Thanks" given for specific posts were lost in the process.




*Note: In this forum software, when an opening post (OP) is removed, the whole thread goes away.
 
I'm glad this thread came back.  

My whole reason for going on the road in the first place in 2009 was due to trauma -- my daughter's living/dying process then death due to brain cancer.  Going on the road, being in nature provided the grieving and healing places I needed.  Rather than running from myself, I was running to myself ... feeling the pain, anger, and then the healing.

Today I find myself on a similar path, grieving my relationship of 25 years.  Even amicable, divorce is hard.  I'm grateful for healing in nature, and the practice of grief while I travel the back roads.

Suanne ... currently within Chaco Canyon's amazing presence ... healing
 
Growing up I would watch TV shows like Then Came Bronson. There was also one about a couple of truck drivers that traveled. I guess the idea of being able to escape the life that I had was a very appealing thing. Half escape, half adventure. I can't say that there was a single traumatic experience that pushed me over the edge. I guess simply put, there was not a single reason for me to stay. Like Janis Joplin said about freedom. I joined the Navy at 17, and went active duty on my 18th birthday.

My early years may have caused me to alienate or fully trust or be attached to others. In the military people come and go all the time, so I just got used to not having permanent people in my life. Wherever I lived I got along just fine with people I met, had friends, even got married a few times. But when it was time for me to go, I went. I guess that makes me a kind of a loner. I don't feel bad about it, just the way it is.

I traveled more when I was younger. I got a steady career and traveled on the weekends when I could. I am now retired but haven't traveled in a number of years. If I can assist others who travel I like to do so. I host on Boondockers Welcome and Couchsurfers. I hope to travel this summer to get out of the sun and heat here, (Southern Nevada), if all goes well. I bought a van and a 22' toy hauler trailer then ran into some medical issues. I racked up some medical expenses, so I really don't know what my budget will look like. I am on the mend pretty good, so maybe by this July I can head out.
 
WOW! This thread is totally "not" what I expected it to be about? I kept avoiding this thread because I kept thinking Trauma? I don't know enough about medical stuff to have any useful input here. After finally reading a bit here, I wish I joined in much earlier. It seems that most of my younger life would be a perfect fit in this thread. I love talking to people, but can be a bit of a recluse at the same time. Does that make any sense? Possibly more later if I can muster the courage. No promises.
 
DannyB1954 said:
Growing up I would watch TV shows like Then Came Bronson.
 Damn, that used to be my favorite show - episodes are up on Youtube, though they don't have the same impact on me as an adult. Now I'm a bit more realistic and wonder how his clothes were always so clean, where he carried his stuff and how he took a poop.

Does this bring back any memories?

I wonder what ever happened to the word 'transient' - it used to be the go-to description for homeless people, especially if a crime was committed by one.  As a kid I thought being a 'transient' would be the coolest thing one could be.  Now I is one - Haha.
 
Ballenxj said:
WOW! This thread is totally "not" what I expected it to be about?

This has the potential to be the longest running thread in CRVL history.  Who, at our age, doesn't have a ton of baggage we'd like to unload?
 
Some things you never get over.  The smile of your first love...

She was no good for me, but my first wife, the Hawaiian / Spaniard ~~~  :blush:  I have to stay away from that part of California.  I am not going through that insanity again.   :D :cool: :p  I keep getting asked when I am passing through.    :heart:
 
Ballenxj said:
I love talking to people, but can be a bit of a recluse at the same time. Does that make any sense? 

This would be a very good description of myself.  I can be extremely outgoing and social and enjoy it immensely.  And I can sink away into seclusion and enjoy it immensely.  Just depends on my mood and where I'm at in life.  The last few months i've not seen or been around too many people and have just been enjoying the solitude and my thoughts as I continue to work on the home and get it ready to sell.  Day dreaming about future travels.

Although I suppose participating on this forum and other social media sights is sort of cheating on full seclusion. Though at times I'll even stay offline for a week or two at a time if I really want to unwind.
 
My beloved is an extreme introvert, and over the years as I've decided I prefer her company to anyone else's, I go out less and less.  But I still desire interaction so for me forums have been a boon.  They also allow me to interact with people who would normally make me very uncomfortable, from the safety of my own home.
 
I lived for a couple of years in a rural part of Connecticut. With my dogs, goats and garden I never ever left the property except to go to work and I'll say it was the best 2 years of my life. It was also relationship based.  I had everything I needed right there.
 
The good old days.
May they never come again.
The thing about war messing people up, You have to realize SOME of them were messed up before they went in.
If you were warm, they took you, (and me).
 
Pacing aimlessly,
With my mind in unrest
Unsure of what may come.
What have I done to bring this down on me?
Helpless to make this undone

All in due time, see the world through different eyes.
All in due time, the shadows will give way to light.

How much more can I give of myself,
as these walls close in on me?
As I slip down into this despair
(into this despair),
There is nothing to attain

What victory
(what victory)
When my soul is weak,
(is weak)
where does my help come from?

All in due time, see the world through different eyes.
I see the world through different eyes.
All in due time, shadows will give way, give way to light.

All that we suffer through leads to determination.
The trials we all go through gives us the strength to carry on.
Something within us burns, desire feeds the will to live.
A reason to believe I will see redemption.

All in due time, see the world through different eyes
I see the world through different eyes
All in due time, the shadows will give way to light.
All in due time.
 
I could either drown
Or pull off my skin and swim to shore
Now I can grow a beautiful Shell for all to see
 
DannyB1954 said:
The good old days.
May they never come again.
You have to realize SOME of them were messed up before they went in.

The military was/is an escape for many people coming from difficult situations. Guys from small towns could gain some status and rank and then when their tour is over they return to their small towns - the cocoon of military life is gone and they're back to the same bleak prospects they had there before, and few people are interested in what happened when they were away. Lots of drug use and depression among those guys in my small town.
 
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