Top five regrets of the dying

[cyndi]

<a href="http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2012/feb/01/top-five-regrets-of-the-dying" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2012/feb/01/top-five-regrets-of-the-dying</a><br><br><p><strong>1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.</strong></p><p>"This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it."</p><p><strong>2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.</strong></p><p>"This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence."</p><p><strong>3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.</strong></p><p>"Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result."</p><p><strong>4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.</strong></p><p>"Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying."</p><p><strong>5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.</strong></p><p>"This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again."</p>

 

[my_vantasy]

Important things to think about while we are still the living. Thanks for sharing.

 

[offroad]

of course a very very valid group of ideas.

 

[James AKA Lynx]

Only the Body dies. <br><br>One should live life as if he is going to return to the same area he lived in most.<br><br>James AKA Lynx

 

[dragonflyinthesky]

So sadly true.

 

[owl]

&nbsp;&nbsp; The same five could be said for the living. Get busy you guys

 

[Guest]

Thank you Cyndi, &nbsp; I have been thinking about the things you said a lot lately, these are the reasons that I for one, and I'm sure many others here, am changing my / our lifestyles to the vandwelling lifestyle. This forum has been a godsend to me, thank all of you, my new friends, and especially Bob, and Katie, and all the moderators, for all you do for us. &nbsp; Sincerely, Duane

 

[twokniveskatie]

Thank-you Duane. We will be bringing improvements to the forum soon. I am always so glad to hear of the people who get something from everyone's contribution here....especially the members. While I am working behind the curtain, the members are the ones who make this place what it is. I don't express my gratitude enough. Thanks to everyone for being here and your support.

 

[Guest]

Your welcome Katie, I look forward to meeting as many of y'all as I can when I get out on the road. &nbsp;Duane&nbsp;

 

[Ziggy Moon]

Did the five sorta get to anyone else? ... <img src="/images/boards/smilies/bawl.gif" class="emoticon bbc_img">

 

[offroad]

have to review.<br><br>1)&nbsp; True Life is relative.&nbsp; Do what you want is tempered by starving, or having loved ones hurting.&nbsp; If you have few responsibilities you can be true to yourself with ease.&nbsp; But you do have limitations, for those folks that walk away from hard situations, and live the consequences.<br><br>2)&nbsp; Working hard.&nbsp; Well you could loose your job if you dont work hard.&nbsp; Might need to find anotehr job, and move to reduce your working pressures.<br><br>3)&nbsp; Courage to express feelings is definately true.&nbsp; but dont be crazy either, as no one wants to deal with that.&nbsp; Go be crazy in your house, or in the woods, with no one around.<br><br>4)&nbsp; Of course stay in touch with friends.&nbsp; They get lazy.&nbsp; forgive them and still stay in touch.<br><br>5)&nbsp; let myself be happier?&nbsp; damn right.&nbsp; talk a walk.&nbsp; go do something fun.&nbsp; spend your money that is disposable.&nbsp; its your life so live it while you are healthy.<br><br><br><br>

 

[ontheroadagain]

If you're happy and you know it................tell your face!

 

[caseyc]

<p>Anyone ever watched the movie "The Bucket List" with Morgan Freeman? Great, great movie. So relevant to this topic.</p>