tx2sturgis said:
You could say the exact same thing about those apps....you filter out the wheat from the chaff based on a picture and a profile.
I've never used the apps for OKC or POF, just the websites themselves. Of course, physical attraction plays a part in mating/dating, and the profile is important if it provides enough information. But I, as well as many friends of mine, don't use only those two elements to determine whether or not we will meet someone. The initial message we get is very important, and whether or not someone is willing to exchange messages for a little while before actually meeting.
tx2sturgis said:
The 45 year old ugly bald guys who list chess as a hobby, play video games 7 hours a day, drive an old Toyota Corolla, and still live with mom are NOT very high on your list are they?
No matter how "smart, kind, and thoughtful" they are.
You never know what someone finds attractive. I don't often go for the classically handsome. And not everything in your description is a turn-off for me.
45? Why not? I like younger men.
Bald? I dig baldies and have dated quite a few, no problem there. Lots of women find bald men sexy. A lot sexier than the guys who are so self-conscious about losing their hair that they try to maintain a thin little rat tail ponytail.
Chess? What's wrong with chess? I like chess. My ex-husband played chess.
A Toyota Corolla? I don't give a shit what someone drives, as long as it's safe and he doesn't drive like a maniac.
Lives with his mother? Actually, I did date someone for a year and a half who rented a room from his mother, and it didn't bother me in least because he is a good man and lived his own life.
The only thing on your list that would bother me is gaming for many hours every day, because it seems like such a waste of time. But I do know people who manage to accomplish quite a lot in their lives, including being very active gamers, so I keep an open mind.
The one thing I generally cannot tolerate is a smoker, but I've made a few exceptions. Personality overrides many things.