Seriously considering leaving before things get worse, not sure how to hide plans

[owl]

Ones age when dealing with parents has nothing to do with it. You are always their baby. My point was communication, often the most overlooked facet of relationships. I'm wondering what difference it makes whether the OP is a male or female to anyone. Wouldn't the advice be the same?

 

[Blue]

yup, sex of the OP makes no difference, your 19 get out there and make your own huge mistakes then learn and recover from them just like everybody does/did.

Sometimes more communication makes sense, but if the parrents are logging every minute past 3 hrs the OP has been away from home, checking the OP's search history on the browsers (um no, that pornhub thing was just for a psych 100 class project!) etc. I'm not sure thats a situation where "if you dont let me do this with your permission I'm leaving anyway" is going to bring the results the OP wanted.

I'd prolly make a ninja getaway plan too.

 

[Patrick46]

Well, if you DO decide to bail and hit the road, then at least wait for this school year to end. You're already in, so you might as well finish what you've started.

Plus, this'll give you time to put your plans together.
B'sides...you're gonna wanna wait until summer to leave anyways...so you don't go freezing your bits off!!

 

[Kevin H]

Your situation is not encouraging at all, but if you think things are tough now, wait until you bail out into a van and hit the streets. You ain't seen anything yet.

Bindi talked about the military. I always propose the military for young folks in your situation - why? Because I was EXACTLY where you are when I was 19. No education, no job experience, no skills etc. I joined the Marines. Best thing I ever did.

It got me out of the house immediately. Got me a paycheck, housing, food, education, job skills and most importantly - pride in myself. I was no longer dependent on ANYONE.

Am I pushing the Marines? Sure, if that is what interests you - but as Bindi said, given what you have described, and today's world situation, I strongly advise you talk to a Coast Guard, Air Force or Navy recruiter.

Want to make yourself and your mother proud? Get out. But do it in a reasonable way. As intriguing as life on the road appears, I really don't think it is the answer to your situation right now.

Just my 2 cents

 

[Pappys Dash]

2 things I tried to impress on my kids were:

1) You have to find your own path. Your first choice may not work out as expected but you can make changes along the way as long as you continue to learn from your mistakes as you go..

2) I'm not saying that this is how you are thinking, but a lot of young people think that when they get out on their own they can make their own rules. Once you do get out on your own, no matter what your living arrangements are you will find there are more rules than you ever expected.

 

[spd2918]

There isn't any buses here, mom would be mad if she knew I was riding a bike on the roads here (curvy and hilly, with city level traffic) and I don't have any friends because I have spent so much time at home.

I mean this in a nice way: you need to see a professional about your family and personal issues. At your age you should be making your own life decisions and not worrying if mom will be mad.

It is as simple as that.

 

[GotSmart]

Well the OP last posted four days ago, and was last on here two days ago reading. They never went to the legal forum I suggested. From the earliest postings to the latest ones it seems to have a world of difference in background story.

I would love to be able to access the ISP addresses used for many posters here. :dodgy:

 

[Donedirtcheap]

Well the OP last posted four days ago, and was last on here two days ago reading. They never went to the legal forum I suggested. From the earliest postings to the latest ones it seems to have a world of difference in background story.

I would love to be able to access the ISP addresses used for many posters here. :dodgy:

I would love to hear the parents side.

 

[Patrick46]

I would love to hear the parents side.

x2

 

[GotSmart]

x2

Ditto.

 

[decodancer]

I'm guessing that this kid is no more than 14 years old. Even if you see a picture there is no way of knowing who the person writing is unless you meet them. Ask any cop whose out looking for online predators. The advice most of you have given is good but if this child is in fact 19, he has a lot of growing up to do before he leaves home.

 

[GotSmart]

I'm guessing that this kid is no more than 14 years old. Even if you see a picture there is no way of knowing who the person writing is unless you meet them. Ask any cop whose out looking for online predators. The advice most of you have given is good but if this child is in fact 19, he has a lot of growing up to do before he leaves home.

From reading his posts, I would say he is 19, but besides being a boy scout has lead a extremely sheltered life. In my personal opinion, he needs to get a car, a job, and some personal responsibility before even thinking of the road. He would be best ether going through college on the GI plan. or be a good boy scout and live under mommy's rules while studying and observing life online at the university.

The predators on the road will eat this one up if he does not get a world clue quickly.

 

[mockturtle]

It's really quite simple: If you are financially independent, there is no reason you can't leave whenever you choose. Financial independence usually comes from steady employment or a very large inheritance. Usually, the former. My guess is that you lack the maturity to live independently at this point.

 

[Donedirtcheap]

Although some parents can be very mean.