I totally agree with keeping black water valve closed until ready to dump. I don't agree with the TP taboo, though. I put my TP in my tank and I probably always will. If you use the right kind I'm confident it WILL dissolve if you keep enough water also in the tank.
I'm of the opinion that if I have a bathroom in my RV I'm by gosh going to use it! LOL Maybe it's because I've changed oh so many dirty diapers, but I'm not afraid or grossed out by *my own* poop, so I'm for sure going to use my bathroom for whatever I need to use it for, not just "number 1". On the other hand, I *AM* a bit grossed out at the thought of collecting nasty used poopy or urine soaked toilet paper in a bag! :s I'm probably wrong, but I'd think that would have more of a propensity for stinkyness than the toilet... Goes to show how we all have our own distinct gross out levels!
As for smell, I've found adding the chemicals takes care of that. Keeping a bit of water over the seal on the toilet at all times also helps prevent smell. And if all else fails (and it rarely does!) there's always Fabreeze! LOLOL
I used to have one of those flush attachments on my sewer hose, but I found that it kept messing up and having to have another dedicated hose was just a pain. So now I just use the clear hose attachment at the valve, close my black valve, and fill the toilet with water a couple times from my water tank (or use a bucket and fill it at the dump station) and then open the black valve to rinse the tank out. I've found that doing that a couple times until the tank is running clear keeps my black tank pretty clean.
Regarding sensors, my tanks never came with any sensors, so I had external sensors added and they are so worth it. I'll never have to worry about anything gumming them up since they are external to the tank. They are pretty accurate, giving me the percentage full, ie 22%,34% etc, not 1/4, 1/2 etc.