Damn Dream Won't Go Away

[MaiaK]

Hi,
I'm 64 years old, married for 26 years, and it never occurred to me to ask my husband how he felt about nature, outdoor living and the apocalypse (LOL)! In the last few years we've hit on the idea of disgarding the krazyness of our lives and moving forward towards living on the road, but it always ends with him being sarcastic, me getting angry, and a deafness silence that seems to last until an hour before the dinner I'm putting together. lol
Okay, so it's not that bad, but clearly some of you must live with someone whose mind needs to pried open to consider the possibility that cutting themselves off and out of the rat race is probably the healthiest way to get yourself back to sanity with drugs or alcohol.
Myself, being a child of the 70's (the tail end), spent a number of years doing the communal living thing, and have developed a wonderful relationship with the land and with nature, and I miss it all the time. Even now, as I'm completing my requirements for the Holistic Practitioner's certification, I'm wondering how to convince my husband how much better an early retirement ( totaling about 1200 for both of us), would afford us the opportunity to become "side job" people, but the lack of security is more scary for him than me, but I've always been more outgoing.
Anyway, I'm happy to be here, and will explain later how this virus situation could be the blessing needed to get us started on the road!

 

[highdesertranger]

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[maki2]

A marriage counselor would tell you to look for the compromise. $1,200 a month income for 2 people who retire early is indeed totally scary. Work on making those side jobs a proven steady income revenue and he will likely be more willing to help you with your dreams.

You are thinking it is his lack of interest in nature, but that is just a small potato part of the situation. It is really all about the money. Not enough money brings vast amounts of stress into any marriage. Being in nature won't solve that particular stress. You have every right to want to simplify and live in nature. He has every right to make sure there is financial stability for the change in lifestyle and not just for the next few years but for the rest of your lives.

So start working hard on those side jobs and also do more camping time in the interim. You will be able to find the compromise but it takes time and effort.

 

[eDJ_]

Welcome to the CRVL Forums    

I was born at the bottom of a large family and witnessed a lot of this first hand.   Grandad always had a big garden and took care of the outside of the place. (almost an acre)  When he passed on Grandmother couldn't bring herself to leave that big place although she couldn't keep it up.  Others in the family felt it to be an imposition on them (or their husband) to come mow during the summer for her. (remember most of it in the summer had been garden)  But she was paralyzed with fear about anything about anything other than what she had always known.  So much that she couldn't believe she could be set up in a smaller place that would be easier for her to look after and not have all the worries with property taxes etc.  It was like dealing with an 8 year old girl.

One of the things I heard later after her passing was this remark:

Better the certainty of misery than the misery of uncertainty.

I hope that in time things work out for you.

 

[Lunama]

I hope I am not editing your post: oops I think I did, sorry.
First I just wanted to say I am totally in love with you. Don't tell your husband or my wife.
I think I feel like your husband. My wife is disabled with 22 years of being younger than me. Poor thing; so, she pesters me with lots of "let's go there" and "get a Promaster for camping, so the wife can go fishing, and husband can babysit our 7 y-o." I love that she gets me away from my screen and out on adventures. I feel your husband probably feels the same way too, our big inertia is such a load, but once we get moving it is so, so! wonderful.