ArtW
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Hovering parents raise 'adult' children who have to call the authorities to right every perceived wrong, no independence, no capacity for discourse they don't agree with, no character
They don't make em like this anymore
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WalkaboutTed
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You have a point about the TV. It makes a big difference. We didn't have one for most of my kids ' youth. There were no "I wannas", no requests for special toys from TV commercials . Playdoh and Legos, those were the only gifts they got besides clothes and a new bicycle when they outgrew then. Hand me downs. They didn't even request fast food because there were no commercials for the boys to see. They watched vhs tapes that I chose. They went out and played in the desert. They rode bicycles and took off their helmets once out of sight of the house. Sometimes I didn't want to know what they were doing. Rocket engine powered Lego vehicles during fire season gave me the willies when I found out about that after the fact comes to mind.
The only thing we didn't stint on was travel. We're poor, but the travel was priceless. India, Southeast Asia and Africa truly put things in perspective for kids.
The only thing we didn't stint on was travel. We're poor, but the travel was priceless. India, Southeast Asia and Africa truly put things in perspective for kids.
Every Road Leads Home
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We had a TV growing up, but I can't ever remember watching it. I had better things to do....all involved being outside and not near my parents.
Spent summers pulling old mowers out of the trash and fixing them, keep one to mow other lawns for money and sell the others. I'd also fix and sell vacuum cleaners pulled out of the trash, 99% of them just had a broken belt. Paper routes, building forts, shooting our guns, making boats out of drift wood and sailing across the bay. Losing our shoes in the mud digging for clams, etc.
Now in this very same neighborhood, I don't ever see a kid outside, the neighborhood playground looks like an abandoned piece of property. Crazy how much life changes in 25 years.
Spent summers pulling old mowers out of the trash and fixing them, keep one to mow other lawns for money and sell the others. I'd also fix and sell vacuum cleaners pulled out of the trash, 99% of them just had a broken belt. Paper routes, building forts, shooting our guns, making boats out of drift wood and sailing across the bay. Losing our shoes in the mud digging for clams, etc.
Now in this very same neighborhood, I don't ever see a kid outside, the neighborhood playground looks like an abandoned piece of property. Crazy how much life changes in 25 years.
ArtW
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Mom CHASED us little heathen outta the house, we mostly played with construction materials we built into toys
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"Where did the world go wrong in this aspect? "
The kids who became good people had parents that cared. The others were accidents, and were treated as such.
I stopped at the local gas station today, went inside and paid. A teenage black boy (maybe 14) went out ahead of me and held the door for me. That doesn't happen around here much (any color). I said, "Thank you. It's nice to see a well-mannered young gentleman".
And his face just lit up with a huge grin. Youngsters need positive feedback. But way too often, they don't get it. And some of them get praise for nothing, and expect it.
The kids who became good people had parents that cared. The others were accidents, and were treated as such.
I stopped at the local gas station today, went inside and paid. A teenage black boy (maybe 14) went out ahead of me and held the door for me. That doesn't happen around here much (any color). I said, "Thank you. It's nice to see a well-mannered young gentleman".
And his face just lit up with a huge grin. Youngsters need positive feedback. But way too often, they don't get it. And some of them get praise for nothing, and expect it.
