Solo women RVers

[offroad]

This thread is not about dating solo RV female folks.&nbsp; But given that fact, some men just do not get the idea, that you do not have an agenda when you are just being social.&nbsp; You are just being nice and communicating and that is it.<br /><br />If you cant just be social, then pretend to yourself that you start out slowly my fellow menfolk.&nbsp; Forget the cliche of DATE and just think interesting diversion of social time, with NO DATE AGENDA. <br /><br />The magic will happen if its supposed to.&nbsp; Many times it is not supposed to, so don't force it, and don't anticipate it with solo RV women. .&nbsp; Enjoy the social company of a fellow interesting human soul, and learn to be friends with someone who is not interested in you (because they have friends and sisters who might be interested in you). <br /><br />High school lessons.&nbsp; How to be an acquaintance and thats it.&nbsp;

 

[beachwalker7]

<span style="font-family: arial black,avant garde; font-size: small;">Boy I sure wish other campers just wanted to share the camp fire and a cool drink alone at a camp site is a downer</span>

 

[sidat202]

I never consider when I meet a woman, that we will hook up. I have never been one to sleep with someone I just met. If I meet someone I am interested in for a possible relationship. I like to get to know that person, and it would be awhile down the road before it would go any farther. Besides, if I did meet someone who wanted to hookup right away, I don't think they are the type of woman I would want to be with.<br />So to all the women out there, if we meet, you can be assured it is to be friend. we can sit by the campfire and visit. Then&nbsp;I will go to my camper and you can go to yours, then enjoy some coffee in the morning.&nbsp;

 

[beachwalker7]

<p><span style="font-size: small;">I'll camp next to you any time , I like the way you think</span></p>

 

[Bgdavidson]

AHH for a night of female conversation around a nice fire. What more could a man wish for. I hope the dinner was a least good.

 

[Unchained]

Used to fall for the damsel type.&nbsp; Now it has the opposite effect on me.&nbsp; Run way!! run away!!&nbsp; Or shoot before it breeds!!&nbsp; ha ha.

<br />GOOD call. Just please note that if you find a female kicking her van while spewing invective that would make a sailor blush and accusing it's mother of being a POS pig hauler, you probably aren't in any danger of being damselled.<br />Not that I would ever do such a thing, of course <img src="/images/boards/smilies/biggrin.gif" alt="" align="absmiddle" border="0" />

 

[Mortisha]

I think it is all primitive behavior. Men will always feel the need to provide and protect and women will always feel the need to&nbsp;nurture. It isn't a bad thing. I have been a very independent woman all my life and raised 4 kids alone and if a man wants to help me... I agree because not only does it make me feel good but him as well and vice versa. Kinda like emotional bartering... both can give advice to help each other out. I don't feel we are here to compete with each other so much as to compliment each other. Like a puzzle of weakness and strength... it fits together wonderfully =) HuggZ

 

[SirJoey]

I don't feel we are here to compete with each other so much as to compliment each other. Like a puzzle of weakness and strength... it fits together wonderfully =) HuggZ

<br /><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;"><strong>Well said, Mortisha!&nbsp;<img src="/images/boards/smilies/thumb.gif" alt="" align="absmiddle" border="0" /><br /><br /></strong></span>

 

[josephusminimus]

There's a nomadic woman phenomenon I've been watching out of the corner of my eye for 60 of my 70 years.&nbsp; They used to drift into the small town where I was living, get jobs as waitresses, have half the men in town making runs at them while they laughed it off casually, had the women in town whispering uglies about them to one another, then drifted on.<br /><br />I've picked a lot of them up hitching cross country over the years and always tried to learn as much about what was going on in their minds and what motivated them as they were comfortable discussing.&nbsp; They came from all backgrounds, had all manner of world-views, some were 'driven' by family and romance situations, some by pure joy of freedom, some by guilt.<br /><br />About the only thing they all had in common was guts, independence and determination.&nbsp; I've rarely met one I didn't admire.<br /><br />I suspect a number of woman-RV-Van-Car dwellers share a lot of the character traits of those I've encountered.&nbsp; I hope to share a campsite and a cup of coffee with a few during the next phase of this life I'm about to enter.

 

[haven]

Great video.&nbsp; ....and <span class="status_offline" title="Offline"><a href="/profile/1950907" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Lifemagician</a>, it sounds like you have the sound muted.&nbsp; Just click where the "X" is on the sound.&nbsp; That will un-mute it.<br></span>

 

[TxGypsy]

Very well put Mortisha!&nbsp; <br><br>I find that once I get through to single men that I'm really and truly only interested in friendship that most of the time it works out great.&nbsp; Many times we get into the trading type situation that Mortisha spoke of.&nbsp; I love to cook and tend to be a natural nurturer...which means I love to feed people.&nbsp; I'm always happy to do a bit of sewing for folks when the need arises.&nbsp; I also do haircuts and groom dogs.&nbsp; I almost always have my kindnesses returned.&nbsp; Folks will show me cool places I'd never find on my own, show me around and tell me about restaurant specials(yesterday was $1 burrito day at a local restaurant!), give me a ride if I don't feel like rearranging everything so that I can drive the camper van, etc.<br><br>Kind of a cool thing happened pretty much on it's own.&nbsp; I'm teaching a yoga class at the campground I'm staying at and it's all men that are participating!&nbsp; <br><br>One thing I think that singles(that plan on staying single) need to understand is that not everyone can handle it.&nbsp; I've known plenty of people that simply can't stand being single themselves, or can't stand someone else being single.&nbsp; I have a couple of friends like that and they are always hounding me to 'settle down' with someone.&nbsp; For them personally they simply couldn't be single, and in my opinion at least one of them stays in a horrible relationship because of this.

 

[Janet100]

This was one of the best threads I have read in a long time. I was very motivated by the Youtube video that was shared. Especially that there was a group of ladies getting together.

I would so love to do this type of living, but the solo part has me a bit concerned. I would have my dog with me, but I do worry about safety and break downs.

I'm going to try this short term, such as getting the van and trying it out on weekend traveling. Working out the kinks, buying and learning how to shoot a gun for protection, and how to work on my vehicle if something breaks down. I have 15 more years before I can retire, so I might have it nailed by then.

 

[headinthetrees]

I think it is all primitive behavior. Men will always feel the need to provide and protect and women will always feel the need to&nbsp;nurture. It isn't a bad thing. I have been a very independent woman all my life and raised 4 kids alone and if a man wants to help me... I agree because not only does it make me feel good but him as well and vice versa. Kinda like emotional bartering... both can give advice to help each other out. I don't feel we are here to compete with each other so much as to compliment each other. Like a puzzle of weakness and strength... it fits together wonderfully =) HuggZ

Couldn't have said it better myself. People try to fight their instincts because of social pressure when really they're just making themselves miserable. I have no problem in either role, if I had a wife who made several times my income, staying at home with the kids would be a no brainer. Of course I'd rather work less and live more in general, which is why I'm here so I'd encourage my wife to do the same.

 

[ryegal]

I get so tired of people asking you travel alone???? like I walked on the moon and my rig is small I have many  women who travel solo with rigs  a lot larger. there is going to be a get together in Quartsite and I will be able   to go to  ours as  well. 

 

[ryegal]

<br /><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;"><strong>Having been alone without so much as even a date for over 10 years now, <br />if a </strong></span><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;"><strong>woman actually showed any kind of interest in me, I either wouldn't <br />recognize </strong></span><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;"><strong>it as genuine interest, or I'd faint dead away, sure as heck!<br /><br />I may already qualify for Tibetan monkhood or something...<br /><br /></strong></span>

LOL I doubt it. they say it is like riding a bike it comes back to you. the next day I gave the new bike I  just got to my granddaughter. I wasn't taking any chances. On a more serious note I really miss conversations with a man.

 

[ramblingvanman]

<br /><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;"><strong>Having been alone without so much as even a date for over 10 years now, <br />if a </strong></span><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;"><strong>woman actually showed any kind of interest in me, I either wouldn't <br />recognize </strong></span><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;"><strong>it as genuine interest, or I'd faint dead away, sure as heck!<br /><br />I may already qualify for Tibetan monkhood or something...<br /><br /></strong></span>

I hear you. I am going on 8 years now myself. I kind of miss female company, but I don't miss the drama at all.

 

[Seadog729]

<br />GOOD call. Just please note that if you find a female kicking her van while spewing invective that would make a sailor blush and accusing it's mother of being a POS pig hauler, you probably aren't in any danger of being damselled.<br />Not that I would ever do such a thing, of course <img src="/images/boards/smilies/biggrin.gif" alt="" align="absmiddle" border="0" />

No, not me either...  ha ha ha ha gasp... bha ha ha ha ha ah

 

[Luciano151]

There were many very interesting posts on this thread. Being that relationships is one of my favorite topics, I thought I would chime in with my feelings about this.

I have been on a couple of dating sites for a couple of months. I wrote up my profile empathizing. the life style that I'm undertaking because I don't want to lead someone on, with them thinking about the typical, mainstream way of living life as something that I embrace and want for myself.

Interestingly enough, nobody every writes me, winks at me or shows any interest in me. If I write someone who states they want to travel the world, they love adventure, they live outside the box, they never write. I've come to the conclusion that most people just fantasize about this type of lifestyle, but don't really do anything to make it happen. It's words on paper, with nothing to back it up. Other people think that van dwelling is a form of being homeless. I guess if a van dweller was forced into this kind of lifestyle, it might be, but the majority of van dwellers embrace this lifestyle because of much different reasons; adventure, freedom, adventure, independence, the list goes on.

I had a couple of friends tell me that I'll find the right person the more I spend on the road because that's where I will find my counter-point, a woman who gets me and I get her without all the explaining. I'm looking forward to that day. Not because I need somebody, but because it would be nice to share things with somebody, have a partner in crime, somebody to hang with.

The future awaits. Until then, forward and onward.

 

[wagoneer]

WINK

 

[ArtW]

Luciano, to most people, 'want to travel' and 'live outside the box' usually means on jets or cruise ships, to exotic locales, and in different boxes