Money that comes at the cost of YOU is too expensive.⠀

[debit.servus]

paulapant
    Don't chase money or goals at the expense of who you are.⠀
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    For example:⠀
    - Don't choose a degree/job/career for the paycheck alone.⠀
    - Don't choose a city/state/country for its low cost-of-living.⠀
    - Don't buy a house just because it's cheap.⠀
    - Don't make grocery or health choices based only on the price tag.⠀
    - Don't travel to a specific country just because it's the cheapest destination.⠀
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    In short, don't make one-dimensional choices based only on the price tag. Your goal is to optimize your life, not shrink the cost. You lose value when you choose the subpar option because you convince yourself that practicality is more important than your heart. You lose something when you rationalize every life decision by saying, “This isn't what I want, but it makes the most sense." ⠀
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    Start the career you want. Live where you want. Buy foods that align with your values. Travel where you want. Take breaks. Do the things that call to you. ⠀
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    And within that context, sure, you can think about ways to earn more or spend less. But don't re-write your script based around financial logic alone. ⠀
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    If earning/saving money comes at the cost of being true to yourself, then it's a bad investment. It's fake savings.⠀
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    Money that comes at the cost of YOU is too expensive.⠀
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[Plant]

Besides the first bullet point, I'm hearing become an income slave. No thanks, I've been there.

 

[willingtorelocate]

Especially about the job thing. If you pick a degree or area of profession just because the pay is good, you'll never be especially good at it. You have to like what you do. If you don't, you'll never be happy doing it.

One thought though: You can never go wrong with travel beyond the US. If you can travel, do it. No matter where you go, you'll never be worse for the wear.

 

[ckelly78z]

It sounds...perhaps...as if you are single with no kids/no dependents. This sort of thinking applies to those with no responsibilities other than themselves, and can't be applied to the masses that are somewhat bound by duty.

 

[Weight]

right on, ckelly. I don't like to think of the projects I had to finish to keep my loved ones warm and healthy. It is sometimes not just about you.

 

[RoamerRV428]

ckelly, yea, I was thinking the same thing. If it is only about you and your desires and wants in life then it is a whole 'nuther ballgame. When you have others to think about and maybe support thru medical situations, family troubles or whatever your life is about....then the game is played very differently.

We humans all know how to live the perfect wonderful best life for each of us, sometimes it never happens that way in life for many.

 

[ByeBye]

I tend to agree with OP. All reasons why would probably become too wordy. I just wanted to acknowledge and validate from my perspective.

When I feel "obligated", I done messed up. For most of my life I felt 'obligated' about this, that or another, mostly due to social conditioning and living by a belief system that was instilled in me before the age of consent. In the last 20 yrs I've learn to question ALL those beliefs to see if they serve me. I've culled most of them.

Obligations are about "survival", a wall built to keep out fear. I understand this butts heads with some deep rooted social constructs but, then again, I reject all social constructs and prefer to live of life of "thriving" without constraints, obligations, contracts (written, spoken and unspoken).

Recently, @ 66 yo, I've found the best I can do is to create a reality that allows me to do the greater good for the greater number. That includes empowering myself to be the best version of MaTaLa that I can.

Just the most recent version of my ever changing perspective.

And, yes, I have raised children.

 

[RoamerRV428]

if we knew at age like 20 what we know now in our 50s and 60s, the world would be a whole different entity created by the population. won't happen tho

 

[Plant]

If I knew then what I know now, I'd absolutely be sipping fancy drinks on a beach somewhere.

 

[RoamerRV428]

I hear ya loud and clear on that Plant!!!! boy if we knew...………...

 

[lenny flank]

if we knew at age like 20 what we know now in our 50s and 60s, the world would be a whole different entity created by the population. 

Or, "I'm no longer young enough to know everything".

 

[RoamerRV428]

YUP, the arrogance of it all diminishes big time the older we get LOL

 

[lenny flank]

"Youth" is sadly wasted on the young.

 

[Weight]

"Roses are red, you lost a tooth, this sub reeks with the foul stench of youth." Charles Montgomery Plantagenet Schicklgruber Burns

 

[crofter]

Being reflective and listening to your own wisdom daily. 
Possible to get hung up in the rat race even when listening to your own wisdom, but if you reflect on your situation daily, you can get unstuck more quickly than if you go with the flow (someone else's direction or idea).     ~crofter

 

[Cammalu]

I liked Hawaii...

 

[B and C]

I liked Hawaii...

We did too until we realized we spent $8K in a week without airfare or hotel in 1985.  Waaay too expensive.  Figured we'd only be there once and it has been true.

 

[maki2]

I truly dislike the types of lists that started this thread. Tons of nonsense in this particular one especially when you consider that it as been posted in a forum on Cheap RV Living where many of the participants often have little choice in their spending options other than to look for the lowest cost options.

Advice...don't buy a house because it is cheap.....nonsense ...many people do exactly that because it allows them to put in sweat equity and  use the financial gain for income or a step up to a better houses. I have done exactly that a number of times. As any real estate agent will tell you the best buy is often the cheapest house in a neighborhood. The houses I have purchased were the cheap ones, the ones that has sat on the market for a long time because they turned off the people who looked at them. Cosmetic fixers  I know how to give them curb appeal and inside appeal too with more of my own sweat rather than money.

Advice....don't choose a job because of the paycheck alone?  Whoever wrote that has never been a single female parent who has to support a family on their paycheck.  As a newly divorced young mother I took the best paying job I was offered at the state employment center program. It was not what I studied in college, it was not the kind of job I wanted for myself or had ever considered or imagined doing. But you know what....it worked out just fine and I gained a ton of new skills and those skills I gained gave me all of the abilities I need to do things such as a van build. It has also enhanced my work as an artist as those same skills worked for the sculptural work that I have done since I left that job. I have never regretted taking the best paying job I was offered despite it not being the kind of job I wanted.


Don't travel to a country just because it is the cheapest option?  Why not do so...as long as it is relatively safe to do so.  Some people want to travel for the sake of travel and visit as many countries as possible. Having an open mind is good. Pretty much every culture has interesting variations in its history and unique cultural influences. What really makes that statement fall apart is that the cheapest country I can travel to is Canada, the next cheapest is Mexico. Both of them work for me! But I just took a look at the list of the 10 cheapest countries to visit from the USA and I realized that every country on that list would be interesting to visit. So why not go for the cheapest ones, it is a great criteria if travel is your goal.

Don't choose a state, city, country for its low cost of living?  Sure you can do that and have it work out great. Fortunately there is a good sized list of low cost places to choose from.

Don't make food choices and health choices based only on the price tag?  Well that is a real laugh, of course I do a lot of that, I do it every time I go to the grocery store or drug store. You don't want to have a diet that does not meet your basic nutritional needs for proteins, fats, fiber, vitamins and minerals but you can shop frugally and still achieve that.

 

[Cammalu]

“Click”. The sound of me pushing the imaginary thanks button


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[ByeBye]

Just because the perspective doesn't agree with yours doesn't make it nonsense.

Just because goal can't be totally attainable at that moment doesn't make it nonsense to visualize that goal.

This, at times, is one of the most close minded, judgmental forums I've ever seen.

I thought one of the guidelines was never telling others "they are wrong"?

Very clique oriented