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I have been robbed, so I'd never assume that!

It's definitely more precarious for a woman, and predators tend to believe they are easy prey... so unfortunately you need to deal with that somehow.

I will say that I spent some time with an attractive 35 year old woman, who seemed to take zero precautions. She enjoyed things like strolling through the worst parts of large cities, hitch-hiking to Alaska and all over, sleeping under a bush if that was all that was available, etc. The most fearless person I ever met. I believed her when she said she never had an encounter that ended badly. She knew that someday she might, but she simply wasn't worried. If anything happened then she'd deal with it. This is something I understood very well, but I'd never met anyone who lived this way so completely. Oddly, when you allow yourself to be completely vulnerable and surrender to the universe, it makes you invulnerable in a sense... whatever happens will be met openly, no resistance. A lack of fear and an abundance of "presence" has a profound affect on others.
That's awesome. I really hope she never has anything happen and that she can keep that mindset forever. I'm in a number of women's groups and a lot of women have that mindset. The common denominator for all of them is that nothing has ever happened to them. It's easier to have that mindset when nothing has ever happened than it is to have that mindset after something has happened. May all people, regardless of sex, be free to live in this state of innocence forever.
 
The common denominator for all of them is that nothing has ever happened to them.
I wonder what you mean by "nothing has ever happened" though? Some people live a sheltered life, but that wasn't the case here. She had many encounters with aggressive and belligerent men and gangs. I mean, she was definitely out there where dangerous situations are common. I suspect that in her past she'd had something traumatic happen, and recovering from that resulted in this fearless response to others and life. That's just a guess; she didn't talk about her past much. I haven't spoken to her in 20 years, so no idea what she's up to now.

I'm certainly not suggesting this as a strategy at all. You can't fake it.
 
Well, the first time I did the search without the quotes and there were a lot of returns on the word couple. The word is used in a lot of ways, lol.
The second time I used the quote marks and only the one post came back.
 
I was thinking of google...
 
Well, the first time I did the search without the quotes and there were a lot of returns on the word couple. The word is used in a lot of ways, lol.
The second time I used the quote marks and only the one post came back.
Go to YouTube. I typed in vanlife couple and there were 1000 different videos that popped up.
 
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I wonder what you mean by "nothing has ever happened" though? Some people live a sheltered life, but that wasn't the case here. She had many encounters with aggressive and belligerent men and gangs. I mean, she was definitely out there where dangerous situations are common. I suspect that in her past she'd had something traumatic happen, and recovering from that resulted in this fearless response to others and life. That's just a guess; she didn't talk about her past much. I haven't spoken to her in 20 years, so no idea what she's up to now.

I'm certainly not suggesting this as a strategy at all. You can't fake it.
Maybe. I can only go by my experience. What works for one person will get the next one killed so I think people need to do what's true for them. Take care.
 
This is the reason Im looking at a better way to mount my Shotgun with a quick release, you can never be to safe.
 
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Maybe. I can only go by my experience. What works for one person will get the next one killed so I think people need to do what's true for them. Take care.
Absolutely. But also know that "what is true" for someone is not fixed.
 
Absolutely. But also know that "what is true" for someone is not fixed.
It's fixed in this moment in time and we can only live in this moment in time. No one can live in the moment that doesn't exist yet. So people live their truth today and if it changes at some point, they live it at that point.
 
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