DanDweller said:
Why does it seem so difficult to figure out which components I should get?
I think there are two parts to this question/answer.
One. The concept of the function of each component/device - and on this one I think you are very much on the right track.
Two. Selecting the specific brand/device for each function. And trying to predict how well and for how long that specific device will be able to deliver/live. And it seems to me that this is the one causing frustrations right now.
It might seem like it has all been done before, but because you have switch to a different (and very new) battery technology, your are actually among the early adopters of devices that combine new and old battery systems.
And one of the new requirements for a lithium based battery is, to be able to manage/limit the charge rate of the battery (or to beef up the alternator system). As the balance between power needs, capabilities and limits are typically tuned to fit a lead acid system. and was typically centered around the natural internal resistance of a lead acid battery.
With lithium based technology this changes. As the internal resistance in a lithium based battery is much lower that that of a lead acid battery.
As for being able to charge the lithium battery from the alternator, there are several ways to do that.
The energy optimal way is using a DC-DC charger (with limited amp capacity, so nothing gets overheated or over loaded).
But it is also possible to use a small cigi-plug 100-150 watt inverter, and a small 110V battery charger. This method is not as energy efficient, but in a pinch, it can (slowly) get the job done.
And perhaps you already have a small (as in somewhat low amp) shore power lithium battery charger. And perhaps you already have a small inveter that can be plugged into a 12V-cigi-plug. Again a 12V-cigi-plug is not ideal for things over 50W, but they can be supervised, so they do not overheat, and the job will get done.
So what I hear is, that you experience the frustration that is only very common among early adopters of fairly new technologies and fairly new devices.
But all in all, I think you are doing exactly the best thing you can do - by asking in forums where several people with actual and specific experience and observations can guide you.
So please be patient, and give the details time to settle. Okay?