Changes, and going with the flow...

[Queen]

I wrote last spring about our failed move to FL, dealing with my allergies and asthma was just overwhelming, so we came home to IL.

Ahh, the best laid plans. My asthma is horrible here in IL, especially with this warm winter, add to that my honey wants to retire soon-ish, not possible while the condo is on the market, and it's not selling because of nuisance lawsuits from a neighbor (no bank will finance with open litigation).

Sooooo, we do own a 100% paid for condo at the beach. I found a three stage air filtration unit that people with mold allergies rave about, so we'll see how that does... if it works, we may just move back to Florida to our little condo. I wouldn't enjoy the bigots, bugs, or humidity, but I do love that beach.  And we can throw our stuff in the truck when we need a break and head out.

 

[BradKW]

Not sure what category the nuisance lawsuit fits under, but had a friend get stuck with a lot of headaches due to a HOA lawsuit. IIRC, with the help of a lawyer he was able to document that any settlement would be covered by HOA insurance and that satisfied the lender...

 

[Queen]

Not sure what category the nuisance lawsuit fits under, but had a friend get stuck with a lot of headaches due to a HOA lawsuit. IIRC, with the help of a lawyer he was able to document that any settlement would be covered by HOA insurance and that satisfied the lender...

This jackass found one of those personal injury assholes in Orlando, he's suing because our new seawall "wasn't built correctly", the one that handled hurricane Matthew without a hiccup.  He's just hoping for an insurance company payout since they won't want to go to court and spend the extra.

Worst part is two solid offers went belly up over this, one because of financing (his bank withdrew when they say the open lawsuit) and one he said "I'd love to live there, but not next door to that sue happy asshole".

Since it's costing us an extra $1000 a month to stay in IL while we're paying for the condo, it makes sense to head back down until it sells.

 

[highdesertranger]

some people are just a**holes. highdesertranger

 

[Queen]

When we were still down there and they were making our lives miserable, my wife asked me to play nice because they could screw up our sale... well, they've done that so she says I don't have to be nice anymore.

I'm not a holy terror anymore, but I will explain to the wife (the husband doesn't speak to anyone) that we are not friends, I do not want to engage with her, and it would be prudent if she left us alone. I won't yell and lose my shit, but I will be very very firm with her.

I keep hoping if they get their payout they will move away!

 

[Phantom Blooper]

"I do not want to engage with her, and it would be prudent if she left us alone. I won't yell and lose my shit, but I will be very very firm with her."

Years ago in a different life in the Marines one of the Leadership Traits was....Tact.

The definition that we were to abide by.....

TACT

Definition: Tact means that you can deal with people in a manner that will maintain good relations and avoid problems. It means that you are polite, calm, and firm.

Suggestions for Improvement: Begin to develop your tact by trying to be courteous and cheerful at all times. Treat others as you would like to be treated.

After I retired from the Corps and hit the road......I changed the definition to the one I heard years ago....

Tact is the ability to tell someone to go to hell and make the SOB enjoy packing for the trip.

I try to use the original trait definition I learned years ago in my daily life.....however sometimes the after retirement definition prevails.....this maybe what this azzhole needs!

 

[Gunny]

Queen, while I haven't met you in person, you strike me as someone who gets their point across. I agree with Phantom Blooper (love that handle) about tact but while being tactful there can also be an inflection in the voice that, shall we say, let's the person know they have just gotten on your last nerve and further conversations may not be so pleasant.

I hope you can get things squared away quickly and return to planning your voyage into another chapter of your life.

You have my best wishes .....

Rob

 

[VanLifeCrisis]

Best of luck, seems like a real pickle to be in

 

[jimindenver]

Sorry to hear and I hope the filters work. Looks like I may have a few to visit in the area.

 

[Every Road Leads Home]

I hope you guys get it all figured out soon, in the meantime, I suppose there are worse places to be than in the nice warm Florida sun in your fully paid for beachfront condo. : ) 1st world problems can be such a bitch can't they?!

But in all seriousness, I do hope the situation resolves itself soon so you guys can sell it and be exactly where you want to be doing exactly what you want to do. It's very frustrating not being able to move forward because someone else's BS is getting in your way. My first home was a condo and between the nightmare condo association and the nightmare neihbors Ive sworn off the idea of ever owning one again. Although they do have their conveniences, I liked being able to travel and not having to worry about leaving an empty house or the lawn being mowed/snow being plowed, etc.

 

[Wabbit]

...Tact is the ability to tell someone to go to hell and make the SOB enjoy packing for the trip...

I'm sure you have heard(or thought)that at times, the ability to shoot, shovel,and STFU is sometimes the only way to deal with certain individuals...

 

[Queen]

Sounds like you are at the wrong beach.

Guy

Definitely.  My folks lived there for 30 years, it's like a second home to me... but when the housing bubble collapsed the place changed over to something I don't recognize.  We have repeatedly been called "DYKES", I've seen black people or middle eastern reviled, and young guys in "rolling coal"pickups fly rebel flags up and down the beach yelling at people.  It is a pity.

 

[Queen]

I hope you guys get it all figured out soon, in the meantime, I suppose there are worse places to be than in the nice warm Florida sun in your fully paid for beachfront condo.  : )  1st world problems can be such a bitch can't they?!  

But in all seriousness, I do hope the situation resolves itself soon so you guys can sell it and be exactly where you want to be doing exactly what you want to do. It's very frustrating not being able to move forward because someone else's BS is getting in your way.   My first home was a condo and between the nightmare condo association and the nightmare neihbors Ive sworn off the idea of ever owning one again.  Although they do have their conveniences, I liked being able to travel and not having to worry about leaving an empty house or the lawn being mowed/snow being plowed, etc.

Part of the reason we are considering going back down, this is our nest egg and we've lowered the price to a place where it's not comfortable.  Shouldn't have to give it away because of moronic neighbors.

 

[GotSmart]

Just inform Mr Grumpy Troll that unless he chills, you will donate the house to the Rainbow Panthers.    Also you will post his phone number and address on every bathroom wall in every gay club in Miami. 

Just my humble way of countering ism's of every type.  :idea:

 

[TrainChaser]

^^^ I'm with GotSmart. My version of tact nowadays is not bringing out the shotgun. I finally started to question why I had to be polite when others were being AHs, and couldn't come up with a good answer.

Tell the neighbor that you are thinking of suing THEM for screwing up your plans and devaluing the value of your property, and then suggest the other neighbors do the same. In fact, why not make it a class-action suit?

(Why doesn't this site have those little devil rolly-eyes?)

 

[Queen]

I actually thought of suing them, but not sure I want to sidle up to that particular trough.

Neighbors wife is batshit crazy so my approach will be firm boundaries. If that fails then I'll either call a lawyer or go after her with a ball bat.

 

[GotSmart]

I once got a bad neighbor to move out by hissing at him like a cat when ever I noticed him looking at me.  

The cops came by once ~~~ They loved my solution, as the last person threatened to shoot him.  They were tired of him causing problems in the apartments. They told him he was safe as long as I was not hearing voices.     It helps having friends on the force.  

 

[Queen]

I once got a bad neighbor to move out by hissing at him like a cat when ever I noticed him looking at me.  

The cops came by once ~~~ They loved my solution, as the last person threatened to shoot him.  They were tired of him causing problems in the apartments. They told him he was safe as long as I was not hearing voices.     It helps having friends on the force.  

That is awesome!!

 

[GotSmart]

When I first moved to Missouri from CA, I was working in an industrial setting. I was the tool repairman and and parts runner.  Everyone was decent, with the exception of one over weight, over egoed, and over opinionated red neck.  Every other sentance was to down grade anyone that was not in is inbred family. Racest, misogenist mouth breathing nuckle dragger.   :dodgy:  

Most of the guys there knew me, and my family. (Devoted family man with three young children)  I had long hair at that time, Well Neanderthal staeted making comments about how there was a "Califonia pretty boy" in the shop.    

I started winking and blowing him kisses every time I went past his work station, which was next to the stairs.   I would pop out of nowhere, wink, and be gone,  He must have swallowed his chew a dozen times in shock.   My supervisor had to tell me to stop messing with his head, as nobody was getting any work done laughing at him.   

I am such a stinker sometimes.