Want to Go - Have to Wait

[LadyJo]

I would love to throw some things in the Element and go - now.
But I can't yet.
Patients is a virtue only in others, LOL

 

[BradKW]

hmm, I thought this would be a thread about long bathroom lines on a Friday night.

Oh well. Welcome to the forums!

 

[ghost]

Patience? You live ONE life ...

 

[ghost]

Here is my take:

No debt
No kids
Paid off vehicle
A place that you know you would like (part of the US)
Companion to share good times
Skills to make dough

 

[LadyJo]

Here is my take:  

No debt
No kids
Paid off vehicle
A place that you know you would like (part of the US)
Companion to share good times
Skills to make dough

Ck on the no debt, no kids and paid off vehicle. It's hot in Phx, Flagstaff would be nice. Getting away from the current companion, have a small SS check that, if I am careful, would cover the costs.

There is some business I am required to finish up here, will probably be a month or two. Lots of stress getting things in place. More stress when I tell my companion I am going camping for awhile. Then telling him I am going camping for a long, long, long time. I own the house and will need to continue paying the HOA, taxes & insurance - don't want to lose the house just because he won't pay a bill and won't pay me rent. If it all goes to hell I will have to come back and sell the house, which would be insane stress and pressure.

Currently just way over stressed. Need to decompress and a few months camping would be a great start.

 

[highdesertranger]

if the companion won't help pay the bills and doesn't chip in for rent, I say kick the bum out. highdesertranger

 

[Cheli]

I can relate to all of that LadyJo, but it will work out. Don't stress yourself out and deal with your business that you need to finish up first.

I also understand the companion situation. Me and my bf have been together for almost three years now and I will also be doing this without him. It's unfortunate but we don't have the same goals for our futures and this is something I have to do so I'll be moving on. We've had small conversations about it but once it starts to get real it will provably get way more uncomfortable.

Best of luck and I hope to run into you on the road.

 

[VanKitten]

I think I know where you are at this point in life.

I had a problem relationship that was stressful to get away from.  He was too deep into my financial support, and was in a position to hurt me financially.   I couldnt just run without losing everything through his financial mis-management or abuse of my credit.

It look a long while to get it done. 

I finally left, supposedly temp..but as the months went by it was clear it wasn't temp.  I hired a realestate lawyer to get him out and then put the place on the market.   But this was only after letting the joint account go empty then closing it, followed by letting the car become junk because of no repairs or maintenance...and having it hauled away to a junk yard.

I worried that he would retaliate, but he didn't.   Just had to be sure he could not find me.

I know you have a long road to freedom with this guy.   It isn't easy to get away, and even tougher to get your assets away.  Each step will make the next a little easier.   Just, once physically away from him...do not go back while he is there.   Let the professionals handle the issues...don't risk what he might do to you.

Better days are ahead.   Take care of you!

 

[LadyJo]

  Let the professionals handle the issues...don't risk what he might do to you.

Better days are ahead.   Take care of you!

Thanks VanKitten, sage advise. One step at a time. We are not married (been together 15 yrs) there are no joint assets or accounts. But you are so right, there is no way to get him out without the professionals. He has never and won't ever phy hurt me, so not one of my worries.
It's silly, but I feel like you have given me a hug. Thank you so much.

 

[VanKitten]

Thanks VanKitten, sage advise. One step at a time. We are not married (been together 15 yrs) there are no joint assets or accounts. But you are so right, there is no way to get him out without the professionals. He has never and won't ever phy hurt me, so not one of my worries.
It's silly, but I feel like you have given me a hug. Thank you so much.

It was a hug, and encouragement.

 

[rvpopeye]

Seems there are lots of us here in the same boat.

Being with someone that doesn't want to do this lifestyle never ends happily ever after .....for both !
Or does it ?

I was with a girl for about 10 years as I was making plans and fixing up a rig for ending my music biz life and doing future fulltime workamping and general roaming (without the dreaded itinerary I had for the preceding 25 years...)
She stayed home for the first 2 winters and finally decided to go with me the 3rd , we went from Maine to Nashville , New Mexico and several places in Texas and back to Maine the next summer for another great workamping job.
When it came time to head south again , she decided to stay.
Off to Nashville for me and when I came back in April she had her own trailer set up in the workamper's area and that was it !

She's still there 10 years later and I've been across the country several times to many great places , it does get lonely but I'm doing what I love !

Some day I'm sure I'll find a special someone that loves this life as much as I do and we'll tour together ....into the sunset forever The future's so bright we'll have to wear shades

Keep your eye on the prize !

 

[TrainChaser]

"He has never and won't ever phy hurt me, so not one of my worries."

Do. Not. Ever. Assume. That.

You've heard of the worm turning? They turn to bite you in the derriere, not to give you a kiss. My brother is Mr. Nice Guy........ until the current wife or girlfriend gets tired of his idiocies, and preps to leave. You've heard of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde?

 

[SoulRaven]

Maybe not for the OP, but others need to keep in mind what TrainChaser has said.
Certain "personalities" can freak out when they feel they are losing control of a "situation". Passive-aggressive can be really tough. I have first hand experience with this. : (

I hope OP is able to get on the road soon without a hassle.