nemomenemo,
I just went to shut down this tab and found more replies...and it made me think of one other thing you may have meant, but not actually said.
I do a lot of veterans advocacy. (DID is more the true term, but I am now like "second level tech support" when they hit a brick wall or have an especially convoluted hearing coming up.)
We know a ton of vets who got physically messed up overseas and now live in senior housing.
They throw 28 year olds in with the elderly...and the retirees can drive them NUTS.
ie;
Having the police called because James is getting a little 'night recreation' with a lady friend.
"Don't you know we have RULES here about others living in the apartments?"
Complaints about service dogs pooping on the lawn.
(Pictures of said poo show it to be the complainers "AAA battery sized" poodle turds, NOT the quadriplegic vets 100 pound Belgian Malinois service dog...who is well trained to go in the woods, beyond the lawn.)
James listening to a little Miles Davis on a Sunday afternoon...
"We have noise regulations here, heathen." (Another cop visit when no rule was broken.)
Using the pavilion to throw a disabled TBI vet a birthday party.
(...and suddenly, 3/4 of the people who live there just happen to 'walk through' the pavilion...by chance. Right as the strippers showed up. LOL)
Our society has gone plum crazy thinking everyone has to bend to their own idea of morals, noise, language, life in general.
(The true meaning of free speech in general=you have the right to be offended, nothing more.)
If you do not to have "the radio is talking to me again and it says you are the devils offspring," people off their meds in your complex, consider yourself lucky.
Wrinkle village is NOT always the best the place to be. Often, retirees are more childish and petty than middle school students.
...I get it.
I suggest inviting a group of veteran bikers to your place for a sober-keg party, (complete with some hired help.)
30 bikes in the parking lot will bring you a boatload of either respect...or fear.
Is it better to be respected, or feared? To each his own, but it sure helped a couple of the guys I know squelch all the drama.
If that fails, type in "DEATH METAL MUSIC MIX" on youtube, turn your computer speakers as loud as they will go, put them in the window...and take off in your car for the day.