Leaving. :(

[SoulRaven]

I'm leaving.

Permanently? Temporarily? I don't know. All I know is that due to a few particular replies this place does not currently feel supportive and respectful. And...I feel that my trust in this community has been broken, and I don't know if/when that might be restored.

If we know each other around here and you want to keep in touch, please PM me so we can exchange contact details. There are so many good folks here who have been awesome to know and the info here is so helpful, but right now I don't feel safe so I can't stay.

Take care, everyone.

 

[Gunny]

Bitty, I have enjoyed reading your threads looking for your 'new home'. I hope you reconsider, there is strength in numbers and there is a handy-dandy block feature that I use for a few. Perhaps you could use that and don't think one or two smart-ass answers speak for the majority here.

Whatever you choose to do, Be Safe. Rob.

 

[mockturtle]

God bless you, Bitty!  Hope all goes well for you.

 

[Queen]

Sorry to hear this,Bitty, but I do get it. I've cut way back on my participation as well.

 

[speedhighway46]

Bitty: I have been meaning to leave you a note commending you on your positive attitude, and more importantly, your persurverience. I have enjoyed reading your story through your many posts.

I guess one of the best features of this site is its diversity; but feelings can get hurt. "When you get the masses you get the *****."

We will not be as good without you. Best of luck in your endeavors, and please come back after giving it some thought.

Be safe.

 

[Kiwi49]

I'm so sorry bitty. I also have noticed how hostile some people can be on this forum. I hope your search for a new vehicle goes better. and if you ever find yourself in Atlanta my shower and washing machine is open to you!

 

[jimindenver]

Bitty I am at a loss and don't know what to say except I hope it wasn't something I have said. Not too many understand what it's like to be overly sensitive.

Good luck my friend

 

[Every Road Leads Home]

Hi Bitty,
I can certainly understand your frustrations. I've been on the receiving end all too many times myself with my disabilities. I try and remind myself not everyone knows what it's like to go through these things, it certainly doesn't fix it or excuse them by any means, but it makes me feel a bit better about it. If you do leave, hope to see you return in the near future. Enjoy your posts and perspective on things. You have a determination few possess and have no doubt it will carry you through where ever your journey may take you. Hope you one day continue to share some of that journey with the rest of us.

Til then, best of luck

Matt

 

[rvpopeye]

Please just stick around.
Ignore/block the offenders ! Plenty more still here to take their place !
You've endured so many setbacks to let this chase you off.....

 

[Oberneldon]

Bitty,

Unfortunately some may not know, or don't remember your personal situation and history, that many of us have followed on your journey here.

I'm sure that some that reply do so without this background and answer with good intent but it can come across insensitive, but without that intent.

Like others, your journey has been helpful in understanding others.

Best wishes,

Brent

 

[GotSmart]

Block those that are big meanybutts.  :dodgy:

Some people have no understanding on how life can suck 100 times worse for some healthwise then they experience.  

I save my pain pills so when I can not move, I do not have to go to the ER.  I do not know everything you go through, but I have my own brand of problems, which (from your description) is nowhere as bad as yours.  Keep up the postings here please, It gives me encouragement to keep going.   

I enjoy your postings.

 

[RossCoe]

New member here. I am so sorry I will not be able to get to know you Bitty

 

[ArtW]

Sorry to see you go, Bitty, good luck with getting on the road

 

[SoulRaven]

Block those that are big meanybutts.  :dodgy:

I dunno, are we even allowed to block moderators?

Thanks for all the replies everyone, I really appreciate it.

To clarify, this had absolutely nothing to do with someone who didn't understand my disabilities. I've been dealing with that for well over a decade and have developed a terribly thick skin for that sort of thing. I couldn't imagine leaving over something so trivial.

A moderator attacked me. Publically offered to build a rig for me, SHOUTING all through his post about how it'll be done HIS way, I may ask "NO QUESTIONS" and that it's going to be done how he thinks it needs to be done, no modifications. He also said, I quote, with this exact emphasis, "you ARE GOING TO HELP!"

This wasn't even a thread where we were talking about a build. I had only requested the forum's opinion on a Craigslist van.

Furthermore, two other forum members jumped in attacking my character. Saying things that were completely untrue, which I could defend very easily because it all exists in writing. Why they simply wanted to lie about me, I don't know.

It shook me up a LOT that three people would suddenly pile on me like that out of the blue.

It shocked me that the person being the worst was a moderator. And is still a moderator. I thought respect was a requirement for membership here?

It disappointed me that while this went on for half a day, the only person defending me was my boyfriend before the other moderators stepped in.

I don't know who's going to start posting untrue things about me next. I don't have any reassurance this sort of thing won't happen again. I've got nothing, except a lot of folks assuming that I'm leaving over very trivial things.

A big thank you to everyone who's contacted me by PM, it's good to know I won't completely lose touch. If you haven't already and you'd like to keep in touch, please share your email address with me so that can happen.

Thanks everyone.

 

[GotSmart]

I dunno, are we even allowed to block moderators?

Worth a try! 

I have cut back my posting here.  The doctors have screwed up my meds so bad I am tempted to move to another state and start over.  I was sleeping 16 hours a day, until I started to cut back on some of them.  I could not trust what I was writing or thinking. 

There are a lot of people willing to help you out on your terms, but you need to be able to communicate exactly what is to be.  Be BITTY THE GREAT AND POWERFUL!     (No humbug!

(Folks, using this will kill me, so NO we will not use that material.)    

Perhaps we can set up a private Face Book group to organize a build for you. I will PM you contact info.  

If you have a problem with a mod, use the "REPORT" button to bring the offending post to the attention of ALL MODS.   (I use caps to draw attention, not to yell) As  former mod on political forums, this will bring the problem to the immediate attention of all decision makers.

 

[highdesertranger]

what mod attacked you? I missed that. highdesertranger

 

[SoulRaven]

what mod attacked you?  I missed that.  highdesertranger

Patrick46.

I've learned from experience that anyone who generously offers help while in the same breath yelling stipulations about exactly how it's going to be and with the slightest deviation all bets are off is not someone I'm willing to accept help from. I have way too much respect for myself to get into another abusive situation.

Of course, indicating that I require basic respect of myself and my limitations from anyone I receive help from, was taken as "attitude". And in the eyes of others who replied I was turning down a great deal. I would do it again in a heartbeat to stay away from anyone who thinks that my need gives them license to push me around and disregard basic human decency. And since others here view that as foolish, it simply reinforces my realization that this forum is not the place for me.

 

[gcal]

Bitty

You talked somewhere about difficulties you had run into with overnight parking. Go to a Youtube channel called Nomadic Fanatic. He was based in Washington state for some time and has a number of videos which offer tips on finding safe places to park overnight.

 

[cyndi]

It disappointed me that while this went on for half a day, the only person defending me was my boyfriend before the other moderators stepped in.

We don't live on the computer. It was handled as soon as we realized there was a problem.

We do our best.

 

[user 2252]

bummer.......