If I recall Ford did put the 6.0 diesel in vans also, but you definitely done't want one - way to many EGR problems. I traveled in Baja with a couple that had a fully loaded 4x4 Sportsmobile and regularly got better than 17 MPG out of it with the 7.3 diesel. I had a extended Ford van with a 5.4 liter that got right at 12 mpg loaded with tools and driven like I stole it. I understand the Dodge issue, as it seems when they're good, they're really good, but when they're bad, they're really bad, and I'm not familiar with the different years/models enough to know why seemingly identical vans can be so different in terms of power and reliability. I like the older carbureted Chevys with a 350, but they rarely get better than 10 mpg. The new Chevys are much better on that front, some even pushing 20 mpg when lightly loaded and driven carefully.
I think your plans are good, I just wouldn't go to the trouble of building aluminum frames for the interior work myself. I don't think you'll end up saving that much weight, as you still need to cover those frames with something. I think building with plywood can end up just as light, and maybe even stronger if done well. And definitely cheaper unless you have access to a bunch of aircraft grade aluminum scrap and a TIG welder.